Do you worry if your sex life isn't up to much?

[Daisy66]

I've been thinking a lot about our sex life since having kids. We're lucky if we do it once every couple of weeks these days. Sometimes more than a month goes by without any action.

The thing is, I don't feel that bad about it, as my sex drive is pretty low these days. This is due to being too tired at the times when we can do it (usually only once kids in bed at night) but I also have a bad body image right now, which doesn't help.

But at the same time, and I am totally contradicting myself now, I do feel bad. I feel we should be making the effort more. DH doesnt' hassle me about it at all, probably as he is equally tired.

How do those of you who aren't dtd much feel about this?

Daisy

[Bert2e]

Much the same in this house too and most of our friends!

[WeeBird]

I feel exactly the same as you. When we get round to it, it's great but the opportunities and the inclination don't present very often.

I do feel very guilty that I don't make more of an effort sometimes but my DH, like yours, doesn't complain and I'm too knackered to alter the status quo atm.

Most of my friends are in the same boat.

[Rosa]

Hi Daisy

Same here... if a couple of weeks have passed one of us will make a bit of an effort (by this I mean a nudge in the middle of the night, not candles, romance etc ).

I'm not bothered and I would let longer pass but I don't want it to become a big issue, we're both aware of what life is like now. We're tired, when we're at home and Louis is in bed thats our time to catch up with loads of other stuff too that we can't normally do.

We do make an effort for nice nights to ourselves (at home mostly, but occasionally out) and make a bit of an effort for that, but have to say normally we get too pissed and come home and pass out, at least if we are child free overnight there is the morning though

If you've not read Babyproofing your Marriage, I will lend it to you, it has some tips on preserving this area (though I haven't embarked upon these yet!)

Red xx

[~Twiggy~]

Yes.

I'm lucky if we are intimate in one season. I feel the love has been lost somewhere. I yearn for it to return but since having J and tbh before it jusat wan't part of the realationship. There are a few reasons including tiredness and circumstances and my issuse which don't help.

[ChelseaHarvey]

I dont worry i know it isnt up to much & its me i just CBA when i get going Im ok but the thought of knowing that tonight is prob going to be "sexy time" i dread going to bed & if i say to OH after him pestering me about it i go to bed real late in hope that he is fast asleep but he always tends to wake up

I cant honestly rember the last time "sexy time" happened in our house