Feeling very poorly and very low today

**Minky** · 20-03-2007, 09:44pm

And I just don't know why.

Apart from the fact that I feel physically a bit pants but certainly not on death's door, I just feel lower than a snake's belly button today.

I rang Mr Minky and he came home early

and I went straight to bed when he finished Lulah's dinner and put her to bed.

I took her to swimming and then we just spent (from 2pm) in front of the tv

until a friend visited at 4pm. Lulah was extremely badly behaved today, probably due to my weakness as much as anything. Loads of tears and tantrums and didn't play properly with her friend, nothing we offered for her to do was right, whereas her friend played beautifully.

I sat on the sofa looking like death cooled down and just not able to do anything. My friend said "I think she wants you to play with her" and she was right. I did some aquadraw with her as that's what she wanted but then she threw an utter hissy fit and the only way I can calm her when she does this (she wanted a cracker at 5pm and I said no as it was nearly tea time) is to put the TV on.

I feel like a failure as a mother. I really shouldn't be having this baby - I can't really deal with one let alone two. What was I thinking?

Oh I don't know, I just want to run away.

Does anyone else feel like this?

Minky (sorry for self indulgent whine)

**Chocolate Lips** · 20-03-2007, 09:47pm

Um I have had serious moments of crying and wailing down the phone to my OH through this pregnancy about how I can't cope with one so how on earth am I going to cope with two etc and going to bed in the afternoon feeling low and depressed which wasn't helped by feeling ill with a cold/sinusitis.

So you are totally not alone, and it doesn't make you a failure at all. I think it is probably a whole mixture of emotions/hormones/being ill which is making you feel low.

**Stephi103** · 20-03-2007, 09:47pm

Oh don't be silly saying you shouldn't be having another. You are having an off day when your feel rubbish. That doesn't make you a bad mother. Now don't be so hard on yourself.

**ms sweetcheeks** · 20-03-2007, 09:47pm

Minky

Stoppit, stop saying you're a bad mother, when you're clearly a wonderful and very loving and deserving mother.
You are pregnant for heavens sake, anyone would feel knackered/down, and that is without having a 3 yearold to deal with/ look after on top of that.
You deserve your 2 girls as much as anyone, and everyone has bad/down days.

Compared to some mothers, you're an absolute saint, and don't you every forget it

**Booh** · 20-03-2007, 09:47pm

Sorry your feeling so yucker, tomorrow is another bright (but cold!) day and I hope you are feeling a little better.

We have all felt the way your do when PG with number two, your be great when Mini minky II gets here.

Get to bed, sleep some more and have a fun day with Lullah tomorrow! - Cimema is great when you are PG with a toddler!!

**funky11je** · 20-03-2007, 09:52pm

oh sweetheart you poor thing & yes lots of us feel like this & wonder how we are ever going to deal with it all - at least I do for one.

My DD Mia does this so often, she is always more difficult to deal with when I am tired - mainly due to the fact that I am tired I can't deal with her so well. I have found that it helps sometimes to tell her that I am tired, sleeply or whatever it is & then we try to find something to do together that I can deal with - doesn;t always work, but helps

You are a fab mum & what the best for both of your girls - you should be having this baby & your no where near a failure ... it was just one of those days & tomorrow will be a better day

11je

**Angel** · 20-03-2007, 09:52pm

I have no advice but I know I've struggled already dealing with a willfull 3yr old and morning sickness / tiredness. They pick up on these things so quickly too.

Get a good night's sleep and hopefully you'll feel better tomorrow. You're in no way a bad mother - we all have off days when all you can muster the energy for is a TV day

**So Happy** · 20-03-2007, 09:54pm

[quote=Minky]

I feel like a failure as a mother. I really shouldn't be having this baby - I can't really deal with one let alone two. What was I thinking?

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You are not a failure from the posts I have read about you, you are a loving and caring mum.

**katkinn** · 20-03-2007, 09:56pm

Oh angel - been there done that got the t-shirt and yes it feels PANTS but you do what you have to do to get by.

Just write off today and think that tomorrow is a new day!

It's probably just that you've absolutely overdone it the last couple of days, plus Lulah is bound to be still on a high from the weekend. Ime they're always a bit overexcitable if they'd had lots of attention and then go back to *normal life*.

And I'll say it again - it IS easier once the baby is here

**Jelly** · 21-03-2007, 12:09pm

Originally Posted by katkinn

It's probably just that you've absolutely overdone it the last couple of days, plus Lulah is bound to be still on a high from the weekend. Ime they're always a bit overexcitable if they'd had lots of attention and then go back to *normal life*.

It always takes Max a while to settle back down after a birthday or Christmas and you have had a lot of busy days lately.

Nothing wrong with letting Lulah relax in front of the tele if that's what will settle her, either. You don't do it all the time so she's not going to end up square eyed and stupid. Sometimes putting my feet up in front of the tele is just what the doctor ordered and I don't see why kids shouldn't feel the same way sometimes

I hope you're feeling better today