Help me get out of sunday dinner with MIL!

**Booh** · 16-11-2006, 05:04pm

I really really do not want to go, and I really don't know why I 'HAVE' to go!

DH will just sit there all day being fussed over by his mum, so I will be running around after a toddler in a very untoddler proof hourse, (lots of steps, very expensive stuff around!), also have DS to feed and I will not do it infront of FIL as I find it weird, but if I go off to another room, they always end up in the same room. I have tried announcing that I want to be left in peace (as it always gives me a break) but it sooooo doesn't work!

What makes it worse is that BIL & SIL should be going with their children, but SIL has announced for some unknown reason that 'she just can't make it!' WTF?? So why do I have to go?

ALSO, and my life I am having such a moan here, the food is beyond vile, I just can't eat it, still haven't told MIL that I am not a veggie anymore as I can't stand to eat tesco value fatty pork roasted to death and veggies that just tase of salt.

Oh and dinner is at 4pm, which is at a really odd time, so DD will not want anything and they will bully her into eating, which is something that I just don't believe in!

What can I do? I have not gone lots of times a I have been ill, so can't use that one again!

**gillyf** · 16-11-2006, 05:14pm

Can one of the kids be ill? Or DH. He'll get the most sympathy.

**Booh** · 16-11-2006, 05:17pm

DH will really want to go, sorry should have made that clearer!

mrscoobie · 16-11-2006, 05:19pm

Fake illness, this can never be argued with. Your husband can still go obviously but he can say you are coming down with flu and everyone won't want to come anywhere near you.

I sympathise though. Mr Coobie's family are normally lovely but after last week's dinner at his brother's house, I contemplated suicide.

**bluekat** · 17-11-2006, 11:49am

I agree, fake illness.

You know it makes sense.

BKx

**clowe74** · 17-11-2006, 11:54am

I would have a big row with HB and then say "fine I am not coming"

flouncing queen · 17-11-2006, 11:56am

Originally Posted by clowe74

I would have a big row with HB and then say "fine I am not coming"

i like this one

**Booh** · 17-11-2006, 12:57pm

I have don the 'fake and hillness' and have a big row with DH.

Really don't want to go, but have been told that we have been incontact with D&V, how awful a mother am I wishing an illness on my children just so that I don't have to go!

DH has just 'not gone' to things of my family and friends becuase he hasn't wanted too!

mrscoobie · 17-11-2006, 03:12pm

Originally Posted by Booh

I have don the 'fake and hillness' and have a big row with DH.

Really don't want to go, but have been told that we have been incontact with D&V, how awful a mother am I wishing an illness on my children just so that I don't have to go!

DH has just 'not gone' to things of my family and friends becuase he hasn't wanted too!

He can't force you to go, so don't go if you really don't want to.

But, every now and then we all have to deal with family/friends of OH that we dislike but just take a deep breath and wish the evening away.

The do I went to was horrific so Mr Coobie owes me one. Having said that, my family are better than his.

**Lollibet** · 17-11-2006, 06:22pm

Hey - you have my full sympathy - I HATE going to the inlaws - sounds very much like your experience topped off with utterly gross food and questionable food hygiene. Turns my stomach plus I really don't like them but OH always tries to drag me along and we always argue about it. I am trying to set a precedent where I don't go everytime (I would NEVER go if I had the choice) and so usually say I have work to do or feel ill or whatever....

My family are such beautiful flowers of the forest compared with his old scroats - nasty miserable pieces of work that they are...

GRRRRRRRR - I HATE IN-LAWS!!!

Just lie to get out of it - or tell you OH to grow up and stop dragging you along

L