Big transitions in their lives - how do YOU cope?

**bluekat** · 06-07-2012, 05:39pm

Originally Posted by donna-j

I howled like a baby when Thomas stopped his private nursery. Really big, embarrassing, can't speak sobs. He didn't give a hoot

Awwww. I suspect I'm going to be the same...I'll maybe just get DH to do the last day.

**helpimfalling** · 06-07-2012, 05:45pm

My middle baby starts September and I'm beyond sad but very excited for him as he's so ready but I'm so gutted how time flys but il have r at home till next September so will be nice to spend some one on one with him alone as I've never really had that with any of my kids because there close age gaps but I will cry like a baby!

On the other hand next september I will be absolutely devastated as last baby will be starting school and il be devastated I've been a SAHM since age 17 I will be ****ing lost!

It's so the end of an era I hate the way it goes so fast I find I've been quiet upset about that lately when I've put them bed and I sit there and think oh god there not baby's for ever i cry a lot

**Shoppie** · 06-07-2012, 06:08pm

I do think its normal

I think when they are young in the school year it does exacerbate things as I remember watchnig T walk into school and despite being tall for his age he *looked* far too young never mind me feeling he was far too young!

I find all the big changes in their lives have hit me quite hard too eg DS1 leaving the day nursery he was at for over 4 years, DS2 had his induction day at pre-school recently and I was

:boohoo: Change is a big thing and can feel very scarey, but you will adapt. Sometime I think you just have to let yourself feel the way you feel

**Velvet Chain** · 06-07-2012, 06:21pm

It does get easier though. I felt the same when DS went to school, I only have the one and knew this wouldn't change so it really felt like the end of something for me. But over time i got used to it more and more and kept myself busy with new challenges and stuff like that.....but i am looking forward to the summer holidays, and know that in September when he goes back I will hate it all over again!

**Sam** · 06-07-2012, 06:29pm

I do know what you mean. Dd is my last and also a young starter, it does all feel like the end of an era.

**donna-j** · 06-07-2012, 07:36pm

Originally Posted by bluekat

Awwww. I suspect I'm going to be the same...I'll maybe just get DH to do the last day.

I have the opposite with Clara

She is so ready for P1 but misses the cut-off by 6 weeks and I really peeved.

**claireh** · 06-07-2012, 07:59pm

I was a bit gutted when M actually started preschool as THAT felt like the end of an era, her first little forage in to the world without me. Don't get me wrong the few hours peace

I get are lovely but I am just very conscious of every stage flying by.

I know I will be a serious basket case when it comes to school. I am going to have to have a third arn't I?

Lots of

for you. Xxx

**Moffgal** · 06-07-2012, 08:58pm

It's another year away before Dec starts but already I'm wondering how I'll react. I'll have had ties with the nursery for 8 plus years by the time he leaves for a start, and to leave there for good will feel very weird. This time next year it'll be a lot of tears on my part I reckon.

Dec will also be a young starter, turning 4 in June, but I'm hoping that seeing his brother go there for the last 3 years will stand him in good stead.

**cheeky_biscuit** · 06-07-2012, 09:10pm

Dd2's birthday is the first week of September so she'll be 5 when she starts, & I've had her for an extra year but it's not long enough. I get choked up when I think about her starting school. She's so happy where she is but she's excited, I keep having a sneaky cry.

lots of the other mums talk about how they can't wait for their LO to start full time but I just want her for another year.

**Chell** · 06-07-2012, 09:54pm

I have tears just from reading this thread!

I'm hoping that I get rid of the tears while everything is ending rather than when DD starts in Sept!

M won't be four until 7th August. She isn't at preschool as it didn't work out. She does however seem much more ready for school than she was for preschool. We tried preschool from the March after she turned two until Oct just after she was three but she never settled.

It doesn't seem like two minutes since I walked across the playground with a new born baby in the pram on our way to toddler group. We've been most weeks since she was born. I can't believe that fours years have passed do quickly.

We attend an exercise/singing/dancing group. They are don't a graduation for her, I think she is the only one leaving this year.

I'll still attend these groups with the children I childmind. I have only ever worked as a childminder with her at home. It will be so odd not having her around. I'll have two boys in Sept age 1 and 2 but it will be so quiet without her to chat too.

Her first day of school will be the first day I childmind two children. I don't know whether to get DH to take a days holiday to help me. I can't turn down the work but having a new baby to look after on her first day isn't the best plan! The other child I will just be dropping off so that won't affect her. She'll see me going home with the baby and think she is missing out.