Did you do your speechs before or after?

**ChelseaHarvey** · 24-06-2012, 07:27pm

Generally do speeches get done before or after the meal? Or does it not matter really??

OH is doing a speech but isnt writing one down he is just going to say it on the day & what ever comes to him. I said to make flash cards up with little bullet points to make sure he says certain things, like Thanks X,Y & Z but he has said no it will make him more nervous. Im surprised he is doing it as he hates stuff like this & gets so embarressed, but im glad he is

Has made me think though about doing a little mini one myself just incase he misses things out.

Did any bride say a little something or just let the groom do it & hope he said what needed to be said?

**Nicolab** · 24-06-2012, 07:36pm

God after no making your guests wait even longer for food

**kelly** · 24-06-2012, 07:40pm

We did before so that it was over and done with and my dad could enjoy the rest of the day (he was pretty stressed about it, mind you so was dh!)

**Lady Leah** · 24-06-2012, 07:42pm

Originally Posted by kelly

We did before so that it was over and done with and my dad could enjoy the rest of the day (he was pretty stressed about it, mind you so was dh!)

WSS we had them before to get them out of the way do Dad, DH and the Best Man could relax x

**cheeky_biscuit** · 24-06-2012, 08:11pm

They always seem to come after the wedding breakfast but before the evening guests arrive.

**Tekkencat** · 24-06-2012, 08:14pm

after food most def

not that we had any - other than mr tc saying we didnt do speeches so dont expect any but thanks for coming ...to the bar everyone lets have another drink

**bubbasweet** · 24-06-2012, 08:20pm

Before if everyone is nervous! I've been to weddings with both and it doesn't really make much difference to the day. If you do before just make sure your venue is aware for good timings and so on.

**Moffgal** · 24-06-2012, 08:47pm

We had our speeches after food. A glass or 2 of wine and a nice meal helped all concerned to relax!

If you want to say a few words, then why not? I did at mine, wanted to make a special point of thenking certain people and I knew DH would never remember if I asked him

**WeeBird** · 24-06-2012, 08:53pm

Before the food for us. My Dad, DH and BIL were all dreading it and we wanted them to relax and be able to enjoy their meal without all the nerves getting in the way and making them unable to eat. They all made nice short speeches

and then we got on with the serious business of getting sloshed and dancing the night away