Need some good old Damsels support!...

[Rez]

Ah flower, what a horrible situation to be in.

I often think things in terms of waving a magic wand. If you could wave a magic wand right now and have a solution, what would it be. Obviously life is far more complicated but I find it helps me determine the direction my heart is telling me to go.

You said you wanted another baby previously but what about now. Have you felt your family was complete since or was another baby something you still saw in your life?

What is right is ultimately what you want and I'm a believer that the right decision at the time will always be the right decision, If you decide to keep the baby you sound wise and strong enough to cope with what other people think. The judging will pass. And if you decide not to keep the baby, you will be sad but you will probably cope just fine with that too and move on.

Good luck.

[Sam]

What a hard situation for you my instinct is that once the baby was here you would never regret it, that doesn't always work the other way round but only you know what is right for you and your other 2 children.

[bisy backson]

i agree with sam, i guess it boils down to what would you regret less - having the baby or not having the baby?

re your parents, i can totally identify with that (and i'm older than you) but its not their life, it's yours, and ultimately your life is no one's business but your own.

The only thing i would urge you to think about is how you would feel about sharing your child with someone you do not want in your life - but still, is this better than not having your child at all?

i really hope you can make a decision you are at peace with, and fwiw, it sounds like you would cope admirably if you had the baby

bbxx