Who is this Damsel on FB?

**irislili** · 11-06-2012, 11:27pm

Originally Posted by LibertyGal72

But my point Adelelee is that I wouldn't want my name to be posted anywhere. Whether it was linked to a specific damsel name or not. Our perception of risk differs.

well dont have any damsel friends on FB and dont join the FB group and the chances are no one will know your name

its all about managing our perception of risk

**LibertyGal72** · 11-06-2012, 11:27pm

Originally Posted by irislili

well i wouldnt have a clue as to ruby's real name and I found her axe comment amusing - hence the

- what did you not understand?

i do think that damz should delete the comments with real name in them

Sorry, irislili, but while Ruby can turn a phrase (and yes the way she said it was amusing) the point she makes is a serious one. And it looked to me as if her point was not being taken seriously, is all.

**Adelelee** · 11-06-2012, 11:28pm

Originally Posted by LibertyGal72

But my point Adelelee is that I wouldn't want my name to be posted anywhere. Whether it was linked to a specific damsel name or not. Our perception of risk differs.

Ok, I am sure Dams will delete it

**Adelelee** · 11-06-2012, 11:32pm

Originally Posted by Chell

Can you add me please? You are one of the few Damsels on my fb.

just about to switch off for the night, can you PM me on FB to remind me to do it tomorrow honey, I have a brain like a sieve at the moment

xx

**irislili** · 11-06-2012, 11:35pm

Originally Posted by LibertyGal72

Sorry, irislili, but while Ruby can turn a phrase (and yes the way she said it was amusing) the point she makes is a serious one. And it looked to me as if her point was not being taken seriously, is all.

yep, i get it. (i'm not that dumb)
like i said i agree real names shouldnt be posted and I think that Damz should delete any names but the only way you will have total protection from being outed is not to have any FB/twatter damsels friends

**Ruby** · 11-06-2012, 11:35pm

I am sure Damz will delete it. I am not enormously worried and I was partially joking* but I do think we really shouldn't be posting anyone's name without their say so. It has probably put a lot of people off joining the group.

*I would sharpen the axe, really.

**bubblewrap** · 11-06-2012, 11:37pm

Originally Posted by Ruby

Just for the record, if anyone posts my full name in a public forum and says "Who is this Damsel please?" I will take your head off with a blunt axe.

You are Felicia Flumpbottom, aren't you?

**parkejm** · 11-06-2012, 11:38pm

Originally Posted by Mrs B

Just being paranoid here, but this is a totally secret group right? I know you've added me Janice but I've had so much grief from work about FB that I'm really careful about only having real friends on there.

Also, should I add people to the group who are my current FB friends? Some of them pop up on the right under suggested members.

I just got DH to log on and do a search and he couldn't see the Damsels group at all.

I beleive that you can just add friends, it's not managed as such so if we do want to keep this private, everyone has to be sure that they are inviting Damsels members only. Does that make any sense? I guess I can see how it *could* get out of hand if there was a big falling out etc.

I hope I haven't pissed anyone off by just inviting loads of Damsels/exDamsels to the group, I should have thought about it a bit harder. Sorry if I have annoyed anyone.

**bubblewrap** · 11-06-2012, 11:39pm

Originally Posted by Ruby

It has probably put a lot of people off joining the group.

I'm actually hugely put off by the number of people saying "I don't even post on/visit Damsels anymore but I'm soandsouser" Why on earth would you join a private group for a forum you don't participate in??

**Katiekipper** · 11-06-2012, 11:45pm

Originally Posted by bubblewrap

I'm actually hugely put off by the number of people saying "I don't even post on/visit Damsels anymore but I'm soandsouser" Why on earth would you join a private group for a forum you don't participate in??

This ^

**Mrs B** · 11-06-2012, 11:52pm

Originally Posted by parkejm

I just got DH to log on and do a search and he couldn't see the Damsels group at all.

I beleive that you can just add friends, it's not managed as such so if we do want to keep this private, everyone has to be sure that they are inviting Damsels members only. Does that make any sense? I guess I can see how it *could* get out of hand if there was a big falling out etc.

I hope I haven't pissed anyone off by just inviting loads of Damsels/exDamsels to the group, I should have thought about it a bit harder. Sorry if I have annoyed anyone.

Absolutely makes sense. Does worry me that someone could click on a friend by mistake and add them, without them having to reply to an invite and therefore have the choice. There must be a way to create an admin, like with the last FB group it was Biker Queen and she had to invite people to join, kept it far more secure. Damz, can you do this at all?

J, you haven't annoyed anyone at all, we all have the option to leave the group if we're not happy with the set-up.

Originally Posted by bubblewrap

I'm actually hugely put off by the number of people saying "I don't even post on/visit Damsels anymore but I'm soandsouser" Why on earth would you join a private group for a forum you don't participate in??

My first thought when viewing it earlier too!

**joanne62** · 12-06-2012, 06:36am

Originally Posted by bubblewrap

I'm actually hugely put off by the number of people saying "I don't even post on/visit Damsels anymore but I'm soandsouser" Why on earth would you join a private group for a forum you don't participate in??

I did find this pretty strange, especially the ones who have said they don't post because they don't like the people or the forum anymore as opposed to those who just drift away because RL gets in the way.

**popinjay1** · 12-06-2012, 07:00am

I'd like to join this if possible. Parkejm will pm u my real name.

**parkejm** · 12-06-2012, 08:34am

A lot will have joined because I put them into the group IYSWIM, I added them - I knew they were Damsels and just went down the list adding them, so that's my fault, not theirs. That's what I meant when i said I should have thought about it more.

**Chocolate Lips** · 12-06-2012, 08:39am

Yes if some adds you, you join automatically. They could un-join though.

**bubblewrap** · 12-06-2012, 08:47am

No, not your fault at all J, I don't think it weird they were invited, rather that they chose to stay. I get invited to facebook groups regularly, if its something I have no interest in/time for, I leave! Just strange that people would choose to leave the forum, but not the group.

**Peridot** · 12-06-2012, 09:09am

Originally Posted by Chocolate Lips

Yes if some adds you, you join automatically. They could un-join though.

Sorry

I didn't think it would automatically join you, thought it would invite you

**parkejm** · 12-06-2012, 09:18am

Same here Peridot

**Superkat** · 12-06-2012, 09:33am

I tried to pm you too, but your box is full :)

**Damsella** · 12-06-2012, 09:34am

Hi there, I'm not really up to speed on this thread as I wasn't feeling brilliant yesterday so wasn't keeping up.

I will remove names from this thread. Also, could we stop inviting people to the group until I have set up an Admin and get to grips with the whole issue which is all new to me. Parkejm, could I set you up as Admin?

Got to do something now, will come back to this thread once it's done.