Who is this Damsel on FB?

**Mrs B** · 11-06-2012, 11:52pm

Originally Posted by parkejm

I just got DH to log on and do a search and he couldn't see the Damsels group at all.

I beleive that you can just add friends, it's not managed as such so if we do want to keep this private, everyone has to be sure that they are inviting Damsels members only. Does that make any sense? I guess I can see how it *could* get out of hand if there was a big falling out etc.

I hope I haven't pissed anyone off by just inviting loads of Damsels/exDamsels to the group, I should have thought about it a bit harder. Sorry if I have annoyed anyone.

Absolutely makes sense. Does worry me that someone could click on a friend by mistake and add them, without them having to reply to an invite and therefore have the choice. There must be a way to create an admin, like with the last FB group it was Biker Queen and she had to invite people to join, kept it far more secure. Damz, can you do this at all?

J, you haven't annoyed anyone at all, we all have the option to leave the group if we're not happy with the set-up.

Originally Posted by bubblewrap

I'm actually hugely put off by the number of people saying "I don't even post on/visit Damsels anymore but I'm soandsouser" Why on earth would you join a private group for a forum you don't participate in??

My first thought when viewing it earlier too!

**joanne62** · 12-06-2012, 06:36am

Originally Posted by bubblewrap

I'm actually hugely put off by the number of people saying "I don't even post on/visit Damsels anymore but I'm soandsouser" Why on earth would you join a private group for a forum you don't participate in??

I did find this pretty strange, especially the ones who have said they don't post because they don't like the people or the forum anymore as opposed to those who just drift away because RL gets in the way.

**popinjay1** · 12-06-2012, 07:00am

I'd like to join this if possible. Parkejm will pm u my real name.

**parkejm** · 12-06-2012, 08:34am

A lot will have joined because I put them into the group IYSWIM, I added them - I knew they were Damsels and just went down the list adding them, so that's my fault, not theirs. That's what I meant when i said I should have thought about it more.

**Chocolate Lips** · 12-06-2012, 08:39am

Yes if some adds you, you join automatically. They could un-join though.

**bubblewrap** · 12-06-2012, 08:47am

No, not your fault at all J, I don't think it weird they were invited, rather that they chose to stay. I get invited to facebook groups regularly, if its something I have no interest in/time for, I leave! Just strange that people would choose to leave the forum, but not the group.

**Peridot** · 12-06-2012, 09:09am

Originally Posted by Chocolate Lips

Yes if some adds you, you join automatically. They could un-join though.

Sorry

I didn't think it would automatically join you, thought it would invite you

**parkejm** · 12-06-2012, 09:18am

Same here Peridot

**Superkat** · 12-06-2012, 09:33am

I tried to pm you too, but your box is full :)

**Damsella** · 12-06-2012, 09:34am

Hi there, I'm not really up to speed on this thread as I wasn't feeling brilliant yesterday so wasn't keeping up.

I will remove names from this thread. Also, could we stop inviting people to the group until I have set up an Admin and get to grips with the whole issue which is all new to me. Parkejm, could I set you up as Admin?

Got to do something now, will come back to this thread once it's done.