How should we deal with this?

[suemarie]

My own granddad changed completely after my nan died. I was 12 at the time, within a year or two, he had moved hundreds of miles away and got together with my nan's sister-in-law (who she hated). I went from seeing him 4-5 times a week and spending all weekend with him over 12 years to seeing him about 3 times in 15 years. He didn't even send a birthday card. He wasn't a horrible man in any way, but he changed a lot. People do.

This but change the grandad to Dad, & thats how my Dad has been since Mum died . I've tried to maintain contact so he can be updated on his only granchildren...he doesn't want to know, he's moved to Wales with his new partner & not left an address or contact number.

[bisy backson]

i agree that you could maybe be more proactive - not calling on the birthday because you were waiting for him to call - but why? if you want to talk to him, or want your kids to call him, just call, you don't need an excuse or reason.

Also agree that (sometimes sadly i guess) life moves on, things change. He is in a relationship so you have to presume he's happy, and unfortunately its not for you to judge it. If you don't like his new partner then by all means stay away, but he can probably tell you don't like her so that wouldn't help.

All you can do is present him with the opportunity to be involved in your childrens' lives (by phoning/visiting etc) and then its up to him to decide if he takes it or not. i would also try and find out what method he is most comfortable with and use that - if he doesn't like skype or it doesn't work for him then use the phone or send emails.

hope it all works out

bbxx