WWYD?

[Jelly]

I saw my friend's ex today at a kids party. He doesn't know me, so we didn't talk (I recognised him from a picture).

I can't decide to tell my friend if I saw him or not. Part of me feels disloyal for NOT saying anything, and of course I would say he looked horrible; but I don't want to annoy her as she's still prone to flare up when she remembers what a tit he was He dumped her to get back with his ex (2nd time he's done it - he's a weak spined tw@t)

So, mention it ... or not?

[*kate*]

Don't mention it. He's her ex after all, if she's moved on she won't be interested. If she hasn't moved on, you're just inflaming the situ.

[bubbasweet]

I wouldn't say anything, especially as you fidnt actually know him. I can't see what is to be gained from telling her.

[Jelly]

Well, she might feel better for knowing that he looks terrible, pissed off and hen-pecked. She's over him, but still cross about how he messed her around. They split up last month.

[Tekkencat]

i dont see the point in telling her tbh

[Jelly]

Really? I would get a bit of a kick if an ex who had dumped me was seen looking miserable and haggard

I won't anyway, as no one wants to hear about an ex on a Sunday night, I am sure.

[Tekkencat]

Really? I would get a bit of a kick if an ex who had dumped me was seen looking miserable and haggard

I won't anyway, as no one wants to hear about an ex on a Sunday night, I am sure.

im totally sure - i dont see the point

[Mrs B]

No I wouldn't. Sounds like it would make her feel worse rather than better overall, so no point.

[skylark]

I wouldn't really bother either, he is history and there doesn't seem to any point to telling her, particularly if it may be upsetting for her.

[scatterbrain]

Unless they did something worth mentioning, I don't see the point tbh. If you happen to tell her about where you went you could drop in passing that he was there, but I can't imagine why you'd feel it important to tell them just because their ex was there. I honestly wouldn't worry about it.

[Sam]

I could see that you would if you'd spoken etc but otherwise I don't think it's worth mentioning

[Velvet Chain]

If you actually knew him and spoke to him instead of just recognised him from a picture then yes tell her, but as you don't know him and didn't speak to him then don't say anything. She sounds as if she is doing ok from the break-up, sometimes hearing about someone brings it all back and doesn't help.

[bubblewrap]

If you actually knew him and spoke to him instead of just recognised him from a picture then yes tell her, but as you don't know him and didn't speak to him then don't say anything.

WSS

I'd hate to think that people would report back to my ex every time they spotted me somewhere :confused:

[helpimfalling]

If you actually knew him and spoke to him instead of just recognised him from a picture then yes tell her, but as you don't know him and didn't speak to him then don't say anything. She sounds as if she is doing ok from the break-up, sometimes hearing about someone brings it all back and doesn't help.

I agree with vc


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