Going from one - two children - the truth please!

[S-J]

Ok so how hard/horrendous is it honestly? People keep saying to me its a huge step up. But I think that because we had such a shock to the system (personally) going from none - 1 that I hope it wont be so bad. Also my son will be 6.5 years old when baby arrives.

Ill HAVE to go back to work but hopefully not til baby is 11 months old - whereas last time my son was only 6 months.

The truth please
Also from working mummies - once you get used to it and have a routine is it all ok?

[Lilacgirl]

I think that the age gap will make things much easier for you (as long as your son adapts well).
My DS was almost 3 when DD arrived and he was quite a grown up 3 and was very helpful and excited but starting to be more independent e.g. playing with other kids at park etc, and old enough to understand I had to feed the baby etc.

I didn't find it a great shock to the system. A bit more so now as they squabble a lot already!

Before recently moving to Oz, I was working part-time and it was about getting into a routine with making lunches and organising things for school/childminder but it all fell into place.

Good luck. x

[Franny]

I did find it hard but I had 2 at home most of the time and DD was very immature for 4.

In some respects, she was old enough to have her own friends and go off and play and DS was an easy peasy baby so it made up for DD getting harder and demanding more attention.

Hopefully, at 6.5, you will find it easier and you will be able to reason with him and you will just have the baby at home all day.

I loved it when DD started school. All DS did was nap.

I hated going back to work, though. I found the adjustment huge. Also, I work evenings and weekends so getting ready was really hard, too, when DH was not at home yet and I had to cook etc!

It is geting easier now but DS is getting harder so it swings in roundabouts.

[Sam]

I found 1 to 2 easy and 2 to 3 even easier - most of the changes in your life have already been made working is hard though, but ok as long as you are super organised.

[helpimfalling]

I found one too two very easy and my son adapted really well as he was nearly three so little bit of a gap unlike the next one I had lol


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[Faith]

I found it easier than just 1

Dd1 was/is very high energy and always on the go, I couldn't stop for a minute with her. Then add to that being pregnant, knackered and permanently nauseous.

Dd2 arrived and I immediately felt better physically. The baby gave dd1 something to do, I kept her running to fetch nappies, wipes, doing odd jobs. I could leave her in "charge" while I made a cup of tea- she had to play nicely and come and get me if dd2 started crying- I'd never been able to leave her on her own before! I could also give her aims, do if she entertained herself while I got dd2 to nap, we'd go to the park/ do painting together. Dd2 was much easier as she always had dd1 with her.

So yes, it was much easier as they entertained each other

[*Uptowngirl*]

I have 3 and found going from 0 to 1 the most difficult by far. Going 1 to 2 and 2 to 3 was a breeze in comparison!

[Honey Dew]

I have 3 and found going from 0 to 1 the most difficult by far. Going 1 to 2 and 2 to 3 was a breeze in comparison!

Totally this! I'm sure you'll be grand!

[Rosa]

I found it easier, but more busy. With one everything was focussed on him and I stressed about his behaviour/ sleep etc a lot, with another one sharing my attention there isn't time to sweat the small stuff. I have nearly 4 year age gap and they play nicely, never had jealousy issues etc.

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[Chocolate Lips]

I should think it won't be too bad as you'll have DS out of the house all day.

I didn't find it hard going from 1 - 2, you just adjust and get on with it.

I had under 17months between my two and that could be quite trying although I wouldn't change it for the world, they're best friends and like Faith says, two can entertain each othe1