Is this just 2yr old nonsense?

**lisnic** · 13-05-2012, 08:46am

Ds has taken to whining moaning crying or screaming what feels like 24/7

Normally he is going cuddles even if he is having one at the time and when he asks I have been telling him to stop crying or whining and I'll give him one which I make sure I do as soon as he does stop but don't until he does

He screams and throws himself on floor at the drop of a pin mostly if he doesn't get his own way

I have been telling him to calm down and to stop whining and crying as he won't get what he wants that way and to ask properly

If he gets into too much of a state I tell him to calm down and if he doesn't after 3 times I've put him on the step and told him to stay there until he is calmed down and then I've been going out and giving him a cuddle and kiss once calm

Is this likely to start working?that it will become less actual step episodes and more just telling him what will happen?its been 2days so not long I know but how many times is reasonable to be on time out on the step in a day!?845 at its been 3 and I swear he has cried or moaned since we got up

I'm fed up hearing both the whining crying and my own voice!

**Bop** · 13-05-2012, 08:57am

I think its 2 year old nonsense - and probably exacerbated by the new arrival.

It sounds like you are handling it very well, but it is very draining.

Big ((hugs))
Bop

**lisnic** · 13-05-2012, 09:01am

I was thinking that maybe it was a combination

I told him last time if he didn't calm he would be in his room until he did

Draining yes very as it seems constant!

**cheeky_biscuit** · 13-05-2012, 09:03am

I was about to ask if there have been any big changes; but remembered. The new baby will have changed a lot of things in his world. He's perhaps crying as he sees baby crying to get attention/his needs met.
How involved is he with the baby? Could he help more? I know it's hard in the newborn phase when you get LO to sleep but if you can find the energy to give your eldest lots of total attention then, it'll help. It is just a phase and being 2 won't help but he'll get better

**creamcracker** · 13-05-2012, 09:48am

We are going through this too

. I've put it down to the big changes and it being developmental. My mantra at the moment is 'this too shall pass'!

We've had a very busy month with visitors staying so i'm hoping that when they leave tomorrow I can try to get back to some kind of routine.

**bubblewrap** · 13-05-2012, 10:24am

Yep perfectly 'normal' at this age, but probably heightened a little bit because of his little sister. After all, she cries and you pick her up/cuddle her

**lisnic** · 13-05-2012, 10:51am

I do make a point of doing that cb doing baking painting whatever

Yes baby arrived lots of visitors 10days after she arrived dh went to work for 6weeks (9days left!) and then 2weeks ago Ella ended up in hospital for 3 nights so yes lots for the little man to take in

Maybe I'll just ignore the whining and crying for now and tackle that a bit later but just put him for time out when he is shrieking and needs to calm down as I feel rotten seeing him upset what seems all the time

**lisnic** · 13-05-2012, 10:53am

True bubble wrap so he thinks I'll cry too umm

I don't Molly cuddle her I do leave her to cry and things which is so tough as often that means I have 2 crying at me and I think I'd like to hide!