What a day - would you have done anything differently ?

**lisnic** · 08-05-2012, 06:49pm

What a day today with ds tantrums/moaning

This morning ok until getting ready to go to playgroup.all in my room Ella on bed max watching tv on bed. Ds started jump diving onto his sister - I asked him to stop it and said he could cuddle his sister nicely but not to jump on her as he would hurt her.he said ok and was fine for a while then looked to check if I was watching and did it again.i told him if he did it again he would be off the bed do when he did I just picked him up and put him on the floor - que moaning on huge quantities

I was on phone to gp and he decided he wanted his dummy.i told him no dummy is for bed only.after 3 or 4 time ds started shrieking so I told him no more shrieking and when he continued I told him he doesn't shriek to get his own way and he would be on the naughty step so when it did that is where he went.he had a tantrum because he was there but did get that it was a given

He also collapsed his legs in a heap and shrieked when I told him we were going to do nappies

At dinner he refused to eat and then asked for pudding so I said no you don't get pudding as haven't eaten any tea.the moaning started and I've since heard pudding a million times I swear.i told him no and put the plate on table and said once he eats some tea he can have some but he hasn't do has had nothing

I feel like I've been discipline him all fat and it's driving me bonkers and really think he must hate me! If he has asked for cuddles or whatever I have given them to him and we have been to playgroup and his friend came round so he has had a good day

Would you have done anything different?

Thank goodness I've not had many days like this with him!

**Mrs B** · 08-05-2012, 07:06pm

Nope, I'd have done the same - and frequently do. You're teaching him a good lesson here, he can't get away with things like violence or not eating, otherwise there will be a consequence. Get used to it lisnic, afraid there will be many many more days like this!

**Velvet Chain** · 08-05-2012, 07:33pm

Think you handled it well, can't really think of anything I would have done differently.

**Peony** · 08-05-2012, 07:57pm

You were consistant - nothing else to be done when they're in that kind on mood.

**lisnic** · 08-05-2012, 07:59pm

Thanks

I just feel rotten like he must really hate me and that all I'm going to do is say no,do this do that etc

I just seems constant today and it's all in my head is it age/Ella etc? If its Ella I feel awful but tbh I don't think it is as he has been lovely to her today too

I put him to bed and we had big cuddles and he is fast asleep really really quickly

I know ignore bad praise good but some things I can't ignore and he needs to learn/know what he can/can't do and anything good or nice I do go yey good boy well done etc

I'm thinking a sticker reward chart as he loves stickers but not sure if he would really get it yet

**Peridot** · 08-05-2012, 08:18pm

I suppose I agree with the others, I think you have to make a bit of an exception for how new his family life is though.. I can't remember how old he is but I think he is really young and it must be hard for him.
I think my biggest big of advice would just be to pick your arguements carefully and they'll probably be more effective... Things like hitting his sister is quite typical behaviour and he is having to get used to her.. I'd prob just remove her from his aim rather than continue to argue about it.
I think you've got to just try and get through these first few months the easiest way you can and without driving yourself crazy!
But that's just my opinion and I'm prob way too much of a soft touch

**Peridot** · 08-05-2012, 08:21pm

By the way just read it back and I don't mean it's acceptable to hit his sister but just that he is getting a feel for her. I don't mean it's right but I also don't think you can really trust toddlers not to push these boundaries so yes, I would enforce that he shouldn't but wouldn't expect him to automatically then follow that rule so would rather just remove the baby from the chance of it happening again...

**lisnic** · 08-05-2012, 08:26pm

He is 2 yrs 1month so yes young

These are the ones I've picked to discipline :-s throwing and trashing toys about I just leave him to it if he wants to fling lego cars or whatever I just ignore unless dangerous

He tried to drill the cat with his little drill

Climbing and bouncing on sofa

Swinging on baby swing

Playing with 2 cups of juice transferring between them resulting in 2 spilt black currant juices

All pretty harmless really just him exploring mostly

**lisnic** · 08-05-2012, 08:29pm

Don't worry I get you p

He isn't viscious to her more just seeing where the line is I suppose? I didn't want to keep her totally away Iyswim as he does love her too and don't want to segregate them Iyswim but suppose when he is being a mischief that is probably best!

**Dr Spouse** · 08-05-2012, 08:34pm

With some of them, can you remove more things from his line of fire? E.g. is Ella really in the baby swing right now, or can you put it away for a bit, can he have non-spillable cups? Same as Mrs B is suggesting for removing Ella rather than telling him off.

No idea if either of those suggestions are any help.