**URGENT OPINIONS PLEASE* Would this be a really horrible thing to do?

[HurdyGurdy]

DD, her ex-/maybe back on again partner, and their baby daughter are away on holiday near Minehead in Somerset this week (about a four and a half hour drive away from home).

Her partner has today been taken to hospital. Not sure what is wrong with him (amongst other things, DD thought he was bringing up blood when he was vomiting), but when I spoke to the hospital at about 5pm (where they are staying is in a mobile phone reception blackspot so DD can't ring) they weren't sure if he was well enough to be discharged, or whether he may have to be transferred to Taunton for further tests.

The problem is that DD can't drive, and the place they are staying at is in the middle of nowhere. They couldn't fit everything into his car, so she doesn't have a pushchair with her, so can't get out. Baby is quite heavy, and DD has a bad back, so can't carry her around.

I am wondering whether it would be just too cruel to him if I went and collect DD and baby and brought them home, leaving him there. I know it sounds absolutely awful to say that, but she can't get to the hospital in Minehead to visit him, so even if she stays, he's not going to have any visitors.

The hospital wouldn't be drawn as to what is wrong with him, but the nurse said they are wary at the moment about discharging him, as they are staying in the middle of nowhere and if he becomes unwell again in the night, it's a long way for him to get back to the hospital (the caravan site's owners took him to Minehead Hospital today). That's making me think it's not something simple, and that he might really be quite unwell.

If they do discharge him, I wonder if he's well enough to carry on "holidaying" - especially as he refuses to allow the baby to have a dummy, so DD didn't take any with her, and the baby is screaming the place down, from what DD says. So DD is getting stressed as well as baby being stressed (baby is just 1 year old).

Really - would it be a really bad thing for DD and baby to come home?

I am wondering if there is some way I can find a cheap pushchair somewhere that I can get delivered to the caravan park tomorrow, which would at least mean that DD could get out of the caravan with the baby. Oh and some dummies as well!

I am to-ing and fro-ing here. DD is really upset and doesn't know what to do for the best.

WWYD? As it is a 4+ hours drive, I need to decide very soon whether or not to set off tonight.

[Sam]

Has your dd asked you to collect her? It's really her call.

[Elvisola]

Could you not pick up a cheap stroller from Tesco and drive down to stay with her for a day or 2 at the caravan park. Then you can support her, drive her to visit him in hospital and help look after baby, at least until she knows he will be ok.

[Bop]

Firstly, big ((hugs)) - this sounds like a very tricky situation all round.

I can see why you want your daughter and grandchild home - and for her it would be easier.

However, I wonder if there is another way to help - could you go down and stay for a few days - at least until he gets out of hospital? Perhaps you could take a pushchair, dummy etc and chaffeur her to the hospital to visit him.

Hope you can find a way to help that works for all of you.

Bop

[Faith]

Can't you go down and keep her company/drive her about until he's discharged or there's more info? Then you'll have a wee holiday with your DD and the baby too...

[bubbasweet]

Could you not pick up a cheap stroller from Tesco and drive down to stay with her for a day or 2 at the caravan park. Then you can support her, drive her to visit him in hospital and help look after baby, at least until she knows he will be ok.

I would do this.

Have you called her and asked if you can do anything to help?

[Peony]

Edit: Typing too slowly - what everyone else says basically.

[LucyDee]

Just to add a little local knowledge, Minehead hospital is a very minor hospital. It has a minor injuries unit and the fact they haven't moved him straight to Musgrove (Taunton) could sound hopeful. They really can't treat too much there and would transfer quickly if it was serious.

Is it worth waiting a couple hours to see what happens?

[Damsella]

No, don't leave him there on his own.

As the others have said, can you spend a couple of days there supporting them?

[Booh]

That also wouldn't just discharge him either, he would need to be collected, probably not just drive himself to the caravan.