Non of my family are coming to the wedding :-(

**bisy backson** · 05-04-2012, 02:50pm

oh gosh i really feel for you CH. when will people realise its not always about them and sometimes actually other people are more important!

lots of love

bbxx

**Damsella** · 05-04-2012, 04:28pm

I'm sorry to hear that CH. You have done the best by your grandma, she may not realise or appreciate it but the important thing is that you have tried.

Maybe, in the next few months, things will calm down and people will decide to come afterall

The important thing is to keep communication open.

**ChelseaHarvey** · 05-04-2012, 05:58pm

Damz now they have said there not coming there not included in the wedding invites so wont be getting one.. That's it now.

**Damsella** · 05-04-2012, 06:01pm

Well, tbh, I think that's a bit silly. We have sent invitations to people we know can't come because it's about us wanting to invite them, not just whether they can come or not.

If you send them invitations then there is always the chance they will stop huffing and come along. If you don't, there is no chance.

**ChelseaHarvey** · 05-04-2012, 06:48pm

They were the ones saying that they were giving there answer before invites went out so I didn't waste my money... I think there answer is pretty clear

**Damsella** · 05-04-2012, 06:51pm

Just send them anyway. If you want them to be at your wedding, whether they want to or not, then invite them. Otherwise you are shutting a door that might otherwise remain open.

As I said, for me sending invitations is all about who I want to invite, whether or not they can come. And in the scheme of things a few more invitations won't break the bank.

**Woodstock** · 05-04-2012, 08:00pm

DH only had his brother out of his divorced parents and sister. I also had one of my best friends pull out two weeks before as she "forgot" the date and booked a holiday

It's upsetting but try to put it aside for now and forget it on the day.

Sounds twee but it really is just about you and future DH on the day.

**clowe74** · 05-04-2012, 08:05pm

Could you write them a letter saying how much it wuld mean to you and saying everything you have said here

**Moffgal** · 05-04-2012, 08:07pm

That's really sad, CHmy heart goes out to you.

Can you maybe take some time out and call your nan on the day? I know it's not the same but my grandparents couldn't make it due to ill health so we called them early evening to tell them how it all went.

**Samba** · 05-04-2012, 08:35pm

I agree with Damz re sending out the invites anyhow. I did this too, I knew certain people wouldn't / couldn't come, but I still wanted them to have an official invite.

It must be really disappointing for you though