Feel like I am struggling just now

[Miss_Jane]

And I just don't know what to do about it.

I just cannot be bothered doing anything. I feel so lethargic all the time. The house is an absolute state but it is such a mammoth task to do anything about it so I just don't bother. I feel so guilty as I am too embarrassed to ask anyone round for play dates with DD1 so I feel she is missing out because of my laziness.

Unless I am out of the house, I just put the telly on and leave the kids watching it while I sit on the sofa and do nothing and I feel so guilty about it. I used to only let DD1 watch an hour of telly a day, now I dread to think how much she watches. I feel like I never interact with DD2, if she is awake, I normally just leave her on her playmat and I feel so bad about that But even though I feel really bad about it, it still doesn't make me do anything about it.

Everything seems to fall to me with the house and the kids just now, if I don't clean the kitchen/wipe the high chair/wash the clothes etc etc it doesn't get done and I feel like I am drowning in trying to do it all. I've tried speaking to OH about it but he is so stressed at work just now that I don't want to stress him out any more.

I just feel like I have no energy and I just can't face doing anything

[lisnic]

Hugs miss Jane

This sounds like it could be pnd possibly

Could you speak to your hv? Take a day off make dh or someone else had the kids and have a day to yourself or if it will make you feel better after sort the house?

Would you be able to get a cleaner in to do a one off clean?maybe this would make you feel better that you can have playdates again and company at home?

Speak to dh again x

[Purple Lady]

I haven't been posting on here, just lurking mainly but read your post and just had to reply. You sound just like me, i have been diagnosed with PND and am now on a course of Prozac and also iron tablets as i am sooo tired constantly. I have been trying to fight this depression for months and months but have been really struggling and when i took DD3 for an appointment, my GP was asking me how i am as she sensed something wasn't right and i burst into tears. She gave me some info on PND and so much of it rang true with me so when i went back i agreed to trying the prozac. Of course also my iron is very low too so the two things are just clashing and making me sink under and under. Simple things like going out with the kids or doing stuff at home feels like a mountain and i end up just not doing it. I also feel very panicky lots just even thinking about what to do in the day. Cos of the way i feel, it also isn't helping me in how i deal with DD2. She can be a little sod and she makes me very angry and my GP said if i wasn't feeling so low, i would be able to deal with her better.

So my advice to you is go and chat with your GP or health visitor about how you feel and definitely consider some antidepressants, you don't have to be on them long term. Your OH may or may not understand depression but at least he will then know how you are feeling. Lastly also get your bloods done too x

[Purple Lady]

PS - As for the housework, do what i do, sod it and get a cleaner in!