Would really like some opinions re music class dilemma

**scatterbrain** · 21-03-2012, 10:11pm

I see their point of view tbh. A PIA but I'm sure they wouldn't bat an eyelid if she wasn't joining in.

If I have to take one of my children to an activity that is for the other one they stay with me. It wouldn't even have crossed my mind to let her join in (unless invited to do so) in an older class tbh.

It sounds like it has become an issue. Maybe one of the other parents have complained or maybe they just decided they need to clarify their rules. I don't know of any paid/enrolled course where you could expect to take an age inapropriate sibling and let them actually take part for free. Sitting on your knee & maybe singing along (but as a spectator) is different from being part5 of it & using the equipment.

The issue as I see it is more that they've changed the way they regard your LO being there after all this time. It sounds like their turning a blind eye in the past might have backfired on them and they're having to be stricter about it.

**Duckie** · 21-03-2012, 10:17pm

The classes I've been to when mine were younger, we had to pay for the second child from when they were a year old. I stopped going soon after Elliot was born (couldn't fit it in with when he slept) but would have been charged when he reached a year - I think they did a sibling discount but still would have worked out to be quite an expensive activity so I waited until Anna was at preschool before he started. I used to go to a pay as you go class too which was £4 for the first child and only £1 for the second so was a bit more reasonable - I can understand the teacher wanting you to pay for your little one even though the class isn't technically for her.

**Fiz** · 21-03-2012, 10:53pm

Do you have to stay in the same room as your son, could you sit in another room from the class with your DD?

**Piggly** · 21-03-2012, 11:33pm

No I have to stay in the room and participate with him. That's why its probably become an issue as I try and devote myself to him, and to ensuring dd doesn't become too involved but trying to stop her singing is v difficult. It has always been v relaxed, and maybe there has been something said. I have looked in the v detailed terms and conditions and it doesn't say anything about siblings. Obviously when I go to groups I pay for them both, but viewed this more as an age specific lesson for DS2, as is the gymnastics he does,but have obviously been mistaken in my approach. Hopefully we can resolve it without any bad feeling.