How do you change the way you think?

**sticky_honey87** · 04-03-2012, 09:27pm

Ok, I'm probably going to sound like I'm talking about the same things, so I apologize for this. Ever since I can remember, I have lacked self confidence and it's something that other people have noticed. I feel that it's an area of my life that has not improved much since my journey through depression.

When I became depressed I thought very little of myself, and the feeling that I couldn't get anything right had and a lot wrong, had a very strong hold on me.

Fast forward to now, and whilst I am generally in a better place, there is still a bit of a dark cloud hanging over me. I feel scared to really relax and enjoy positive aspects of life, gain confidence and acknowledge that there are some things that I'm good at, in case I will one day do something wrong and it will be taken away.

How do I try to get past this?

**Corette** · 04-03-2012, 09:58pm

I feel myself being insecure and have little confidence in myself and my worth at times! I think I have become so quiet and withdrawn not depression as such but sometimes close to it! I hate the way I have changed and to really push myself to go out and speak to people and try and get on with life!
I went back to college and did a course. In my case I had to push myself to go to new things and events even if I felt I didn't want o go and invariably when I got there I would enjoy myself!

In a way fake it until you believe it works for me!

**LibertyGal72** · 04-03-2012, 11:16pm

I think your title should really say How do you change the way you feel?

Ask yourself, what's the worst that can happen? And crack on and do it - whatever 'it' is. They say that time is a great healer. It's true.

As Corette says, fake it til you make it.

LG xxx

**Biba** · 05-03-2012, 08:27am

sticky_honey I am exactly the same as you I cannot seem to change the way I think about things, I do agree the fake it till you make it can help but you do have to be brave and push yourself which is way easier said than done and unless you feel like we do that can be quite hard for people to understand.

I have just taken on a new job role at work it is very much outside my comfort zone and anything that I think I am OK (never good) at, I have a review tomorrow and TBH I am dreading it, I have to come up with the positives about how the last few weeks have gone what has worked and what I have done and all I can think of all is I have got wrong and hasn't gone right

I just can't see anything that may be a good thing there must be but I just can't see it, I don't know how to change that but I need to if I want to be successful!

From the advice I have seen here it is to believe in yourself and your abilities and it will become second nature but if you don't believe that in your heart I struggle thinking like that I think.

Sorry no real advice but I can send you a

and tell you that no matter what you think about yourself others do not see you like that and you are good at stuff and you will not lose anything because of something you do wrong or don't do.