What next?

[Roseyposey]

I'm so peed off this morning. DD's best friends mum has accused DD of doing something to her kid I'm pretty sure she isn't doing (its nothing major), and obvisouly I won't know until after school. But how do you handle a situation like this if the mum is adamant her kid is right?

I really could do without this flipping situation on top of all I've got going on, I really could. I've got horrendous PMT, honestly, the worst I've ever had, and cried the whole walk back from school.

If this causes trouble between the girls (which is probably will, whether DD is in the wrong or not) DD is going to be distraught - she idolises this girl.

[cheeky_biscuit]

the DDs have probably forgotten all about it by now and are best friends again. We had issues when dd1 was in a group of 3-she'd often come home upset about something 1 of the others had said which was par for the course, part of the usual childhood stuff-nothing major that couldn't be brushed off but one of the other girls mums went to the school saying my dd was "bullying" hers-it all got a bit OTTwith this mum gossiping with other mums saying my dd was a bully- but between the 3 girls they'd get on fine, fall out, get on etc. Thankfully she's widened her circle of friends so we get less of this.

[Roseyposey]

CB - yes, that sounds like whats happening, and I'm sure its par for the course, just first time its happened to us. My DD is no angel, and if she'd "accused" of her something else like telling the other girl what to do or being a bit overpowering (vocally) then I wouldn't be surprised. The thing she's said thoughI really don't think she's done. They are friends, they've not fallen out over it at all, but the mum has a been in her bonnet about it - I'm friends with her and I like her, but I know she is fairly over protective or her girl. (well aren't we all - I mean, I am, but not really to this extent).

[cheeky_biscuit]

It really bothered me when the other mum was getting involved and IMO being completely over the top. So I knowyou must be feeling upset, especially if it's not true hopefully it will all blow over quickly.

[Roseyposey]

Wel I really hope my DD widens her group of friends very soon. I've just called the mother of the other one (they are a gruop of three) and she said that my DD has upset hers too. Apparently all she said was "I don't like you" once, and me and the mum are really good friends so its fine, and TBH that comment gets banded about a hell of a lot, so she was fine with it.

I'll have a talk to DD tonight and see what's going on, we also have a parents meeting this week so I'll get the teachers take on it too. She's doing really well at school (top of class for reading) so I don't want any of this to affect her performance.

[cheeky_biscuit]

Well done on her reading it's good you've managed to chat to the other mum.

[Roseyposey]

Part of me thinks I shouldn't feel quiteTHIS upset about it, I mean, they are six year olds, girls - its going to get a lot worse, so why am I in tears about this?

[donna-j]

I think it's the first mum having a go about this that is upsetting you rather than what the girls are up to. FWIW, if one of my kids told me they were upset about that then I would tell them to toughen up - there is no way I would give it enough brain space to actually approach the other mum.

[Roseyposey]

I think it's the first mum having a go about this that is upsetting you rather than what the girls are up to. FWIW, if one of my kids told me they were upset about that then I would tell them to toughen up - there is no way I would give it enough brain space to actually approach the other mum.

Completely agree Donna. DD had a massive issue in reception for about 2 months, where a boy was being fairly physical with her (and i saw it happen once), but I told her that this was school and not everyone would be nice etc and eventually it sorted itself out and stopped without me intervening. And in this situation I would have talked to the child about how to react/sort it out, not speak to the mum. The more I think about it, the more I think its a bit bizarre. And yes it has upset me a bit as this mum has been slightly off with me for a while in the playground (for goodness sake, I'm not my child - you can talk to me!!).