A moment, if I may. NRR

[Miffy]

I'm really struggling at the moment. Mostly physically, but tiredness is affecting my brain too and I just can't seem to think straight atm.
I'm 27 weeks now and it is getting so hard physically. My ribs and my back hurt almost all the time now. Getting around is getting more and more difficult. If I walk for too long or too fast I end up with a stitch type pain around my bump which is so uncomfortable it almost has me in tears and has me walking rediculously slowly. Sitting down helps, but that is sometimes not practical. School run is worst. It needs doing and I am loathed to drive as it is not that far (2 mins in the car), parking is a pain and then I have the issue of heaving R in and out of the car. R is scooting more which is great, but then I have to carry all J's stuff and if it's R's playgroup day all hers as well. On a day like that it is bookbag, R's playgroup bag, two water bottles, two lunch boxes. It's easier to have her in the buggy to carry all that.
DH does help some days in the mornings but not all the time and tbh I miss the social interactions with people. He can't really do pick up. I have had a few friends offer, but its hard because of afterschool clubs that don't tally up.
I am rediculously tired atm. I'm not sleeping at all well. My ribs and back hurt and I find it really hard to get comfy. Baby also seems to be squashing my guts so that is uncomfortable as well. R is not sleeping well either and she's either just coughing in her sleep or properly waking up. Last night she was up and out of her room due to a witch in her bed. It was monsters the other week. It seems like her imagination is taking a bit of a boost atm, which is not ideal. Sometimes she just needs a wee.
DH is ill and has been for 3 weeks now. He is coughing so much and not sleeping and feeling very sorry for himself. I am not getting a lot of support from him as he is so tired and struggling himself. It was as much as he could do to do a bit of work on R's new bedroom over the weekend. We have loads to do this week before my parents come at the weekend to help with the wallpapering.
I keep forgetting to do things and at times am so tired I leave stuff eg washing, washing up and it builds up and gets out of hand. Its so overwhelming at times. Washing up is a pain as bump is in the way and that hurts my back. DH can't do it as sink is too low and it hurts his back too.
Sorry for whinging, but I hate this part of being pg. I hate being pg full stop and it all seems so overwhelming atm. I just want a decent nights sleep and to not be in any pain, but that isn't going to happen for a while. At least the pain will go once baby arrives.
The lovely SarahR is on her way over atm for a chat, so I'm sure I'll feel better after that. She is a superstar
Thanks for listening.

[Helski]

Honey

The good thing is you *know* this is temporary.

I think you need to let standards slip hun, what do you absolutely need to do before your folks come? They're coming to help wallpaper so aren't expecting a perfectly clean, tidy finished house and to be waited on.

School run - can anyone help with the morning school run rather than afternoon if thats tricky with afterschool clubs? Even if one day a week for the next 4 weeks. Then you wouldn;t have to get dressed and could go back to bed after seeing them out of the door. I hear you about social interaction, but atm it sounds like sleep/rest/time is more important and if it's only one day a week you won't miss much.

Again with after school, is there a day where it's possible for someone else to collect J and being him home? If there is then arrange it, if only for this week.

I think when you're overwhelmed and when your brain is tired it feels like it's more hassle to rearrange so you just carry on exhuasting yourself and making yourself miserable with the day to day. Don;t be a martyr, your friends have offered, take them up on it. Take 15 minutes before Sarah arrives and think about who else can drop off and collect this week and text them. Even if it's one drop off and one collection, it'll make a world of difference.

Now is the time to let go a bit and let people help you. Don't make it more complicated than it needs to be.

ETA: Just seen on FB that someone has offered to pick up J for you so that could help too?

[Miffy]

Thanks Hels. Was great to chat and whinge to sarah this pm. Having Stella to play was great. School runs can be arranged. My fb friend has offered so I do need to take her up on the offer. I will try and get dh to take Jacob in the mornings more. Weekend needs a lot of sorting as its Jacobs birthday Saturday and we have a lot of family coming over. I kind of wish so many weren't coming, but we've not seen dhs family since New year and they want to see him on Sat.
It's mainly the tiredness and constant pain that is really getting to me and being restricted in what I can do is so frustrating. Just simple things like picking something off the floor.
I'm just a complete whinge bag while pg. I hate it.

[Roseyposey]

and many more from me. I was concerned today when I saw your FB message. Glad SarahR was able to come over though and that is both a distraction for you and R and some company and just stops you focusing on what needs to be done. Some great advice as ever from Helski, and i agree, take up the friends offers (when it fits with J's schedule) I find this hard to do too, but when I had my wisdoms out, I found once I started leaning on people, it got easier - not sure how that makes me sound!

Hopefully the coughs and colds will ease up soon, can't DH get some medicine, take some vits, get himself on road to recovery? Wish I was nearer and could come round with big lasagne and some fruit cake

[Biba]

Hun was worried too when I saw FB yesterday, I wish I could offer some practical help. Glad you have sarahr and others that can help out &, hopefully everyone will be on the mend soon x