How do you meet people?

**sticky_honey87** · 08-01-2012, 11:13am

Ok, I'm not really sure that this is a question that can be answered easily. I split up with my BF about 15 months ago, and for quite a while I've not really felt like starting any new relationships. I do feel in a very different place and feel ready to start thinking about this type of thing again, however I'm not sure how to go about this.

People talk about meeting their boyfriends through work, friends, etc. I've also heard of a few dating websites etc(obviously you have to be careful).

Just wondering if anyone has any advice?

**thirzasmum** · 08-01-2012, 11:23am

My tip to you would be just to find a hobby you enjoy and do it- enlarge your social circle beyond where it is now and see what happens.

Join a choir, do an evening class, take up ballroom dancing/salsa or anything you fancy. Be happy, have lots to chat about and you'll be surprised what happens. Good luck!

**LucyDee** · 08-01-2012, 01:01pm

Voluntary work is another excellant way of meeting people. It can be fun, educational, challenging and very rewarding. It may however not be the best way of meeting a potential boyfriend as often more women than men tend to volunteer. But you will probably improve your social circle.

Here is a superb site that lists oppurtunities around your postcode.

**DKNI** · 08-01-2012, 02:02pm

I really think it depends on your situation and age.

I am 35, divorced and have 2 young boys. I do get out at the weekends with friends but tbh meeting a man in a bar is never really going to work for me. I have just met a really nice man

on plenty of fish dating site, but its not for the faint hearted and can be fun as well as demoralising so take it all with a pinch of salt if you do join.

**Bettie May** · 08-01-2012, 05:02pm

The online thing didn't work for me and as Andie says it can really knock you if you aren't a strong person to start with. I know it's cliched but just getting out there as much as possible and enjoying yourself will usually lead you to someone. It's when you aren't expecting it that it happens I think. Personally, the more I tried to force situations the less likely they would become so I stopped looking and then met someone (in a chip shop!). I'd try to do as many different things as possible that you maybe wouldn't usually try so you mix in different circles rather than sticking with the same old bars and the same old faces.

**Bop** · 08-01-2012, 06:28pm

I would second the idea of taking up some new interests and expanding your overall social circle. When I was last single I joined a group called Spice (not sure they still exist) who organised a whole variety of different activities and through them tried a few different new things. I then continued with the ones I enjoyed most and it was one of them (Ceroc dancing) that I met DH.

Bop

**Moffgal** · 08-01-2012, 08:35pm

Bop, Spice does still exist, my friend has been with her OH for almost a year after meeting him through this.

I do know that people have had positive and negativie experiences tho. My friend swapped from East midlands to West midlands because she simply didn't get on the the guy who ran East mids and it affected how much she enjoyed the activities and get togethers.

but all in all she loved it, so many things to do and she's made a good few girlie friends as well as finding lurve.