I've lost my going out mojo

[Ali Scally]

Title says it all really.

Over the past coupld of months apart from work, doing the shopping and going to my exercise classes I've hardly been out at all, as in socialising. I was 30 in November and I really just fancy going out as much as I used to. Someone please tell me this is normal. I used to be in pubs, seeing friends every weekend, hardly ever at home and now it's the complete opposite. I find myself turning down invites in favour of an early night with my book or in front of the TV.

I really need to get my mojo back as people are going to stop bothering with me if I don't make an effort and I don't want that. I'm putting it down to the time of year. It's dark when I get up in the morning and dark when I go home from work and I'm quite tired alot of the time as I have alot of early starts, am at work for 6am or 7am most mornings.

Does anyone feel like this at the moment? I have a pary to go to this weekend so hopefully this will help me too.

[LucyDee]

I have had many time like this in my life. After 5 years of hardly socialising at all I have had an 18 month period of getting out and about a lot due to a massive change in my life. I have enjoyed it and it's been really great to reaquaint myself with friends of old but lately I find more pleasure in sitting in with the PS3 with my partner than being sociable.

Perhaps this is something that you will work through of your own accord. The issue is, you are worried people are going to stop bothering with you continue like this. Perhaps it's a case of getting back to socialising in a lesser way than you were and finding a happy medium. This is how we (my partner and me) are intending to approach this year.