How many presents for twins when you only know one?

**Lilacgirl** · 09-10-2011, 06:27pm

Zach recently started reception. He has been invited to a party for twins. One is in his class but the other one is in the other reception class so we don't know him.

My instinct is just to buy for the one child but is that right? I think the whole of reception year have been invited so the parents are going to have a lot of presents to find a space for.

WWYD?

**calgal** · 09-10-2011, 06:31pm

I would buy for both, and have done in the past.

Also, I am a twin & we always both got gifts.

**-x-greeneyes-x-** · 09-10-2011, 06:33pm

Originally Posted by calgal

I would buy for both, and have done in the past.

Also, I am a twin & we always both got gifts.

WSS. I know you don't know the other twin but I couldn't imagine not buying for the other.

**LorettaCastorini** · 09-10-2011, 06:33pm

I think both is the 'done' thing - though if the invite is from only one child then maybe the parent is trying to save you the hassle of buying 2 gifts?

**Twistarella** · 09-10-2011, 06:34pm

Is the invite from both of them? Personally, if my child was in a class with one twin I'd buy for that one. The other class will surely buy for the other twin - not like they will be going without?

**Mrs Cheeso** · 09-10-2011, 06:54pm

I'd be more inclined to find someone/small group of other mum's & club together getting main present for friend & little something for twin you don't know.

**RealGoneKid** · 09-10-2011, 06:56pm

If the invite is signed from both of them, then I'd buy for both tbh. I'd probably buy either the same thing, or variations of similar things for them, but then I generally do that when we go to a joint party

**katkinn** · 09-10-2011, 07:03pm

Joint parties are something that are beyond common place ime and I only buy for the child I know.

If my child knows both children but isn't particularly friendly with one then I'd buy for both.

But if I actually only know one of the children then I'd only buy for one - this usually only happens when the kids go to different schools. (ie a friend of DD's who isn't in our school and the invite is from them and a kid in their class who we've never met/heard of - I wouldn't buy a present and when the tables are turned, I wouldn't expect one for my child)

**scatterbrain** · 09-10-2011, 07:08pm

I would never even consider buying for a child my child doesn't know. Why would you? You wouldn't if other siblings or friends had a joint party and you didn't know them so why for twins? They are individuals.

If you LO does know them both & happens to be friendlier with one more than the other (because he's in the same class) then maybe they both get a gift.

S

**Lilacgirl** · 09-10-2011, 07:29pm

Thanks all. Seems like there isn't a consensus then! I think I'll buy a little something for the other child. I don't think anyone will notice too much under the mountain of presents they are going to get!
Clubbing together for a present sounds like a great idea but not something I could organise. It's all quite cliquey and only one or two even acknowledge me 4 weeks in of me trying to smile and be friendly!