New TTC member

[Mrs D]

Hello everyone,

I am new to this site and am hoping to perhaps find other women who are struggling TC.

My husband and I have been trying off and on for over a year now (more on) but have so far not had any joy. Each month I chart my ovulation etc only to end up disappointed at the end of each month. The truth is it's starting to really get me down and I feel like I am getting a little obsessed!

Currently I am on day 7 PO and have been once again obsessing over each and every twinge and possible sign!! I know that it is more than likely just pre menstrual symptoms and I am just living in hope but then I have every month for the last year! I have had a few different things such as I seem to be very gassy (TMI sorry) and have had some cramping where I wouldn't normally. I know it is too early to test but am due to have a CT scan tomorrow and am concerned I shouldn't if there is the slightest chance I may be pregnant.

I really need to learn to cope with the whole situation better, I just can't seem to switch off from it. I spend hours googling just to try and find answers.....it really is sad. But then I really want a baby and am worried that with each passing month that goes by it's not going to happen. It feels like everyone around me is either pregnant or have just had a baby and although I am happy for them it just hits home even more that I am not.

I do have a son already, and had several miscarriages before I had him but this was with my ex partner. We split up when I was pregnant and I met my husband shortly after my son was born. My husband adores him and loves him like his own but I know he would love a child of our own as much as me. He is worried that the problem lies with him and the not knowing is driving me mad.

I am sorry to drone on, I just feel very alone with all of this. I feel like I should be happy with my lot, I have a loving husband, a fantastic son, nice home, job etc.....not much to complain about right? But still I am so sad

I would really appreciate any help or information from other women that are perhaps having trouble TTC.

I am ready to give up if I am being honest as I can't take much more.

Thanks for listening, it is appreciated

[McMummy]

Hi, There are plenty of us on here have been thru/are going thru similar situations.
I am 11 weeks pregnant at the moment but it took DH and I just short of 5 years to conceive....it is incredibly hard to smile and congratulate others when you feel like you're dying inside. It's so stressful, heartbreaking and can put a real strain on your sex life and relationship as a whole.
I found it impossible not to search for symptoms, convinced that twinge meant something, I'd spend hours on the internet looking at baby names, prams, nursery furniture, bump photos...all things baby related. It quickly becomes an unhealthy obsession.

Dh and I finally fell after 18months under a fertility specialist, have you been referred to anyone by your GP?

Am sure others will be along shortly as you're honestly not the only one to feel like this. Chin up doll, and Good Luck for this month xxx

[Mrs Cheeso]

just wanted to say hi and that you're definitely not alone. Hope you get the support you need on here.

[creamcracker]

just wanted to say hi and that you're definitely not alone. Hope you get the support you need on here.

Another one just saying hello and welcome!

[bubbasweet]

Hey I can't say I know what you're going through, but there's plenty of ladies on this site who've struggled to conceive their babies so will be able to provide plenty of support.

[Stephi103]

Just wanted to say hello and welcome to the forum.

Have you tried http://www.preseed.co.uk/ I didn't fall each month but then used this and feel pregant with my ID twins!