Drinking too much as a coping mechanism

**worrywart** · 14-05-2011, 08:27am

If you were concerned about someones drinking, what would you say to help them to over come it?

**Peony** · 14-05-2011, 08:34am

Bit of an odd first post.

**Squeaker** · 14-05-2011, 08:42am

You're a bit suspicious Peony.

Worrywart, I have no idea. I guess it would depend on who they were and my relationship to them.

**RedVelvet** · 14-05-2011, 08:47am

I guess it depends on how much drinking, if its someone you think has a big problem then to be totally honest I doubt there is much you can say that will change their behaviour. Point out that it concerns you and if it is someone close to you make sure you have some support for yourself.

**worrywart** · 14-05-2011, 08:57am

Sorry, I should have said I am a regular poster, but didn't want to post in my usual name because of the nature of the post.

It is having quite a negative impact on her behaviour and I am worried.

Thanks for the replies. Not too sure on what to do about it. I want to do something constuctive.

**LorettaCastorini** · 14-05-2011, 09:21am

I would say nothing - I would find it difficult to say anything without being seen as being interfering - chances are, the person realises too much is being drunk.

I say this because a good friend of mine has just found out her dh is an alcoholic - and he says he's always known he's drunk too much, and that anyone mentioning it to him made him resentful, as he knew it was a problem.

A really difficult situation - is there any way you can tell her you're giving up drinking yourself, as you think you drink too much - maybe it will make her think??

**LibertyGal72** · 14-05-2011, 09:22am

What is it she is having to cope with?

**LibertyGal72** · 14-05-2011, 09:25am

LorettaC - ime interfering is not a bad thing. Just because it causes resentment does not mean it should go unchallenged.

**worrywart** · 14-05-2011, 09:27am

Too hard to talk in the 3rd person so, it's myself that I am worried about.
My drinking is spiralling out of control and I am scared.
Things are getting too much.

**LibertyGal72** · 14-05-2011, 09:40am

Okay Worrywart. Well done. Acknowledging there is a problem is the first step.

Have you spoken to anyone about this in real life?

What sort of things are you trying to cope with?