What am I doing wrong..??

**kiki** · 18-10-2006, 09:36am

I feel such a bad mummy at the moment. I cant do anything right.
I posted a thread yesterday that Seb wasnt sleeping well at the moment. Last night he woke at 11 then 2 and then I had to put him into my bed at 4 and he then slept until 0730. I know this is a bad habit, but after running in to see him 20 times I gave in.

On top of that he just doesnt seems as happy a baby as he used to. He doesnt want to play with his toys and cries as soon as I put him down. This means I have to carry him around all the time.

I took him to nursery this morning and he is just so happy there. He is sitting on the floor playing and it is only when we get home he becomes a cry baby.

What am I doing wrong??

***Fallen Angel*** · 18-10-2006, 09:43am

I don't think you're doing anything wrong at all. Babies get bored very quickly of the same toys, their own house etc. But once they go somewhere else, i.e. nursery it's exciting! Other children and lots of different toys!!

Jess used to be the same, and sometimes still is. Even taking her out in the car sometimes makes her smile!!

**Peridot** · 18-10-2006, 09:44am

I don't think you're doing anything wrong!
About a month ago Thomas became really clingy with me and I think this is a really normal age for them to do this!
It was driving me mad as I literally couldn't put him down to play with his toys for longer than about 30 seconds without him reaching for me!!!
I think they are learning that they can "test" their mummies atm and try and see how far they can take it!!
I think Thomas is starting to grow out of it so hopefully it's just a stage!!
I'm sorry about the sleeping - if we have a bad night with Thomas, I give in very quickly and bring him in with us just because at that time of night my sleep is more important!!!
The only thing I can suggest is to perhaps let Seb cry for longer?? It may be tough for a couple of nights but could be the answer??

**ms sweetcheeks** · 18-10-2006, 09:46am

How long has he been a *cry* baby?
Theo had a period of 2 weeks of being like that, and I HATED it, and in the creche he was fin and hapy.
Then his teeth came through and I was like "ahhaaa"!

I too thought my sweet baby had disappeared, but he came back again after the teeth came..

That would also explain the sleepless nights..
Hang on in there Kiki, I know it's hard and so relentless

**Angie** · 18-10-2006, 09:48am

You're not doing anything wrong.

A lot of babies go through a clingy phase at around that age and suddenly want to be carried around all the time when they used to be content playing with their toys. And some babies are just more difficult to get to sleep through, it's not necessarily a reflection on your mothering skills

These things will pass, I promise.

**kiki** · 18-10-2006, 10:26am

sc, was that Theo top or bottom teeth???

Seb has got his 2 on the bottom and I think the 2 on top might soon make an appearence. Maybe that explains it all??

**frog** · 18-10-2006, 11:06am

Struan gets clingy and screams when I put him down if he's having a bad teeth day, which is most days at the moment

His bottom teeth came through very quickly but the top ones have been bothering him for 2 weeks now

**ms sweetcheeks** · 18-10-2006, 11:09am

Originally Posted by kiki

sc, was that Theo top or bottom teeth???

Seb has got his 2 on the bottom and I think the 2 on top might soon make an appearence. Maybe that explains it all??

Well it was his first 2 teeth which were the 2 bottom ones..

Actually the whole whingy process took 3 weeks, untill he was almost completely *normal* again...

**Peridot** · 18-10-2006, 12:14pm

Thomas' top 2 have just cut and they looked soooooooooo painful on his gums and took ages to come through - this is when he was all whingy and then he got a cold so it was difficult to tell if it was the teeth or his cold IYSWIM!

**cheeky_biscuit** · 18-10-2006, 12:38pm

you're not doing anything wrong.
When I finally bit the bulllet and got the HV to discuss sleep training/eating/milk problems etc. I just htought it couldn't get any worse, I wanted someoen to take Emma away for a few days and bring her back all fixed

, sleeping and eating like a "normal baby". I STILL feel guilty when i think back to those couple of weeks. I was constantly in tears, I was very unsure of myself and felt like I was a terrible mother. All sorts of people would be giving me advice, and I'd just be thinking is it because I am so incapable! After spending 2 hours walking round the streets waiting for Emma to wake up from her nap (I wasn't going to wake her as she rarely slept back then), I went to baby clinic, when my HV wasn't there. promptly burst into tears, refused to speak to anyone else and went home. the HV phoned me and arranged a home visit - she was an absolute star. She understood where I was coming from (had probably seen it a million times before) and really helped us out. Altho' she did keep saying "I am sure this baby is unwell" and she was teething/had a cold.
Two weeks of hard work later and I got my normal baby

ish, she still is a little madam when it comes to eating.
Sorry for the huge ramble! you're not alone, I think we all go through this phase at some point in motherhood, and we all get through it.
Hopefully your OH can support you, and you will suddenly turn the corner and get through this.