I want her home with me, come and tell me what a selfish mummy I am.

[BonnieTyler]

DD2 turned 4 in September, so she's still in nursery after already being there for a year. She'll start school next September. Last year in nursery she had quite a good attendance only absent when she was ill and I relished those 2.5 hours every weekday morning.

This year she hasn't done a full week since she started back at nursery on 13th September. She did actually have a chest infection at the end of September so had a week and a half off for that. But I can't bring myself to send her into nursery except for the odd day here and there. One to two days a week max! Everytime I think of her starting school next year I can't bear it. She's my baby and I can't believe she won't be at home with me all the time. I honestly don't know why I'm reacting like this. Because most of the time she drives me round the bend with her tantrums and demands.

I feel so guilty. I know she should be going to nursery everyday. I know it'll help her development so much. Every Sunday night I say right she's going in tomorrow and going in all week. And then Monday morning comes and I can't take her in. I wasn't like this when dd1 started nursery. Although dd2 was born when dd1 was in her second week of nursery. So probably why I didn't feel the longing I do now. I really don't want to let her go, and I'm trying to enjoy the time I do have left with her at home as I know next year she'll HAVE to go in to school all day.

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[Helski]

Honey, if that's how you feel, then that's how you feel

I can't understand it though, I relish the time I have when mine are in school/preschool.

[scatterbrain]

What about sitting down and planning what you can do while she's at nursery and things to do together when she's not? That means while she's at nursery playing all the 'stuff' gets done (like cleaning, shopping, you time etc) and when she's home you can devote time to each other or go out for little treats. I find if I don't do this, then when we are together I'm always trying to do other things, which isn't good for either of us as we just get under each other's feet.

I can understand how you feel & think it's probably more common than you think.

S

[minigirl]

I understand how you feel, I'm the same especially now my little girl is in school full time. I think it's nice that you enjoy your daughter and want to be with her.

Obviously next year she'll have to be there full time and you won't be able to change that, but can you cut down her hours at nursery for this year, so she'll still get the benefit of going but you'll have more time to spend with her. Other than than I'd say just make the most of the time you have together and be thankful that you have such a special relationship.

[Cerise]

I would plan to send her 3 days or something. Then you have a balance that works for you and your family. There is no 'should' about this. But if you plan it then you can ditch the guilt and enjoy your time more.

[bisy backson]

i agree, i don't think you're selfish - the quality time we have with them is so short and precious - they'll never be this little and gorgeous again.

i would agree with the suggestion to only send her maybe 2 or three days a week? that way she'll get some benefit, plus you'll still get time with her.

my no 2 son is the same age, and i have him at home for 2 days next year (legitimately ) and i'm soooo happy about it. i work three days and those extra two i ahve with him are the best bits of my week (well, mostly....) so don't beat yourself up - she'll be at school full time for the next eleventy years so no need to rush into it.

however, i do think routine is important, so pick maybe 2 days to start with that she'll DEFINITELY go, then maybe up it to 3 days later on?

bbxx

[Dr Know]

You're her mummy so you know best. FWIW when ds was 4, I only put him in nursery 50% of the time - especially in the Winter, I just felt everytime I put him there he was going to catch something... Go with your instinct.