Thinking of seeing a medium - thoughts appreciated

**starfish60** · 02-09-2010, 02:40pm

I've been considering this for some time as the activity that DH and I have had in our home over the past three to four years - which I'm thinking must be caused by some spirit/entity - has got me curious. On the other hand the good Catholic girl

in me tells me I shouldn't really meddle with "those things".

I'm being really pathetic and dithery (typical me) over the matter. It's not that the activity ever bothered us much, as it was always harmless and non destructive, and it seems to have quitened down lately. I'd just quite like to find out something further if possible. I did try talking to "it" once or twice (feeling rther meff in the process), as suggested, but they must have been shy, or I'm crap at communicating, because I didn't get any response.

I dunno - I didn't do anything to trigger or "invite" the entity in (though I don't mind it being here) - I've never (yet) visited a medium, never attended a seance, used a ouija board, nothing.

(I said I was a good Catholic.

)

I suppose I just want to walk in and have some astonishingly good medium say (without any words from me), "You're here to find out who's been moving/hiding/dropping objects down out of the air in your house. It's *******"
But how likely is that?

And even if they did, I'd likely worry that it wasn't really that person's spirit, but some mischievous other entity trying to trick me, as the Church claims.

I really don't know what to think.

It's not as if I'm bereaved or anything, so there's no emotional fragility going on.

I'm just nosey, really. I'm sort of grateful for what's happened to us, for pretty much confirming to me that there really is some sort of afterlife, something I'd sat a bit on the fence before it all happened. It's been extremely interesting and eye-opening for both DH and I, if not a bit frustrating when things we're looking for disappear and reappear.

I realise fully that this ramble will probably all sound utterly batshit to the non-believers/uninitiated/people who've never experienced supernatural activity before, but DH and I know that what's been happening in our house is 100% real.

Anyway, other people's thougts/suggestions/experiences would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

**Chickster** · 02-09-2010, 02:52pm

Oooh, I don't know if I could cope with all your strange "goings on" Starfish. I'd have run for the hills by now!

Everybody I know who has been to see a medium raves about how good an experience it was. I would absolutely love to go and see one, but am far too chicken

**starfish60** · 02-09-2010, 03:01pm

Originally Posted by Chickster

Oooh, I don't know if I could cope with all your strange "goings on" Starfish. I'd have run for the hills by now!

Everybody I know who has been to see a medium raves about how good an experience it was. I would absolutely love to go and see one, but am far too chicken

Well, it's our house, and DH and I ain't moving ourselves, three kids, a dog, two aquariums, and a ton of crap anywhere!

Real life ain't an episode of Scooby Doo.

I used to get nervous (very), but once I realised it wasn't hostile I guess I just relaxed and accepted it. Besides, it's gone rather quiet recently, as I mentioned. I kind of miss my wee ghostie now.

But yes, I'm a bit nervous of what seeing a medium might reveal.

It's just all so strange and unfamiliar, and a bit scary if I'm honest.

**Solitaire** · 02-09-2010, 03:48pm

I'd love to see one, but I'm scared my mum wouldn't come through as she didn't believe in that sort of thing

**Enchanted Wonderful** · 02-09-2010, 04:31pm

I would definitely recommend the Spiritualist Association of Great Britain. I've seen a few different ones there and i found them very good. Only thing i would say is that i think for information about a spirit in the house, you might want to go via some kind of ghost hunting website where people specialise in that.

Mediums generally would focus on people who are close to you who have passed, family members etc. I'm not sure they would pick up an entity in your house, unless of course it had attached itself to you generally.

www.spiritualistassociation.org.uk/

**Chickster** · 02-09-2010, 04:32pm

Originally Posted by Solitaire

I'd love to see one, but I'm scared my mum wouldn't come through as she didn't believe in that sort of thing

Me too Solitaire. Actually, I'm scared she would come through and that would make me cry because she'd made contact, and I'm scared she wouldn't come through because she didn't believe in any of this, and that would make me cry.

My friend went to see one who said that her mum was her guardian angel and was in the room with her at that time. She went on to tell my friend intimate details of her and her mum's relationship (which nobody in the world could have known) and it really freaked my friend out. I'm not sure I could handle that!

**starfish60** · 02-09-2010, 04:48pm

Originally Posted by Enchanted Wonderful

I would definitely recommend the Spiritualist Association of Great Britain. I've seen a few different ones there and i found them very good. Only thing i would say is that i think for information about a spirit in the house, you might want to go via some kind of ghost hunting website where people specialise in that.

Mediums generally would focus on people who are close to you who have passed, family members etc. I'm not sure they would pick up an entity in your house, unless of course it had attached itself to you generally.

www.spiritualistassociation.org.uk/

Thanks, EW. I had had thoughts similar to what you suggested. Although I thought a ghost hunting society would just set up equipment and camp down for all night vigils to try to detect a presence, though? We don't need or want that - DH and I have witnessed enough to know that something is definitely going on.

As for people close to me who've died - there's noone younger than about sixty died in my close family for over fifty years. I'd assumed that the mischievousness would suggest a child or younger person?

Neither DH nor I have any personal connection or history with our house or area. Our families both live hundreds of miles away. I just can't think who it could possibly be.

"Attaching itself to someone" - at first it used to always be me that witnessed stuff, but later DH began to as well. I was glad about that, as he could see for certain that it wasn't just me going gag ga.

It's nothing to do with the older girls as stuff happens whether they were there or not.

The activity only happens in our house, car and garden, so it does seem to be place bound, I suppose.

Just now it's a mystery - one that has me fiendishly curious.

**starfish60** · 02-09-2010, 04:58pm

Aw, I think it's understandable that you'd be a bit reluctant in Chickster's and Soitaire's cases.

As I said, I'm not vulnerable in that respect. Just nervous of the whole unknown, after death matter. It's a difficult decision to make. Dither, dither...

**bluekat** · 02-09-2010, 05:49pm

Honestly? I wouldn't bother. If you have a friend who has the gift or someone who'll do it for free/a charitable donation then go ahead. I reckon most so called mediums, even those belonging to the spiritualist church are fakes, even if they don't know it themselves.

I don't disbelieve but think that we all have the same "gift".

If your entity bothers you, tell it to go away. That's what a reputable spiritualist would tell you to do.

BKx

**starfish60** · 02-09-2010, 06:07pm

Originally Posted by bluekat

Honestly? I wouldn't bother. If you have a friend who has the gift or someone who'll do it for free/a charitable donation then go ahead. I reckon most so called mediums, even those belonging to the spiritualist church are fakes, even if they don't know it themselves.

I don't disbelieve but think that we all have the same "gift".

If your entity bothers you, tell it to go away. That's what a reputable spiritualist would tell you to do.

BKx

I don't know anyone who's involved in mediumship, genuine or otherwise.

I do know someone whose aunty did it, for no charge, but she's dead now (the aunty, obviously). So no, there's nobody I can ask for free/donation.

As I said it really doesn't bother me - I'm just curious, that's all. I don't know if they're trying to get my attention for some particular purpose, or if it's just random. I think I'd just like to try to find out, if possible.

I have a pretty damned good bullshit detector, so I'd know a fraud. If I did visit someone I wouldn't say a word, give a false name, not give any address or anything. That way I think I'd know if they were genuine. I'm well aware of all the non specific bollocks that the charlartans come out with, so I'd spot that. I'd be after specific details, name etc.

Oh, and if *I* myself have a "gift", then it's very well buried!

**starfish60** · 02-09-2010, 06:10pm

Originally Posted by bluekat

If your entity bothers you, tell it to go away.
BKx

I'm too nice/polite to do that.

As long as it doesn't do any harm, I'm happy enough to live side by side with it.

**Enchanted Wonderful** · 02-09-2010, 06:15pm

Actually i would bother, as very often these spirits want to be released. Ghosts are simply souls that are trapped down here, normally due to unfinished business, so they tend to retred their earth bound footsteps eternally.

If it were me i would loosely look into it, see if there is someone locally who is a medium and would come around and do some house cleansing to let the spirit move on.

**Rez** · 02-09-2010, 06:19pm

Originally Posted by bluekat

I don't disbelieve but think that we all have the same "gift".

I'd agree with this. I don't have a gift of any kind but once walked into someone's house for the first time and asked if there house was haunted as soon I stepped through the door. It was just as if someone came down the stairs to greet you! They were really shocked and said yes.

A friend of my Mum's got a clairvoyant in once for a party. She'd thought for years her house was haunted but it was totally non-threatening so she was happy to live with it. The clairvoyant then told them all about their ghost and they then loved having her. They called her Mary.

I think I'd like to know if it were me. It seems like you have a completely benign entity if such a thing exists!

**bluekat** · 02-09-2010, 06:25pm

Originally Posted by starfish60

As I said it really doesn't bother me - I'm just curious, that's all. I don't know if they're trying to get my attention for some particular purpose, or if it's just random. I think I'd just like to try to find out, if possible.

I have a pretty damned good bullshit detector, so I'd know a fraud. If I did visit someone I wouldn't say a word, give a false name, not give any address or anything. That way I think I'd know if they were genuine. I'm well aware of all the non specific bollocks that the charlartans come out with, so I'd spot that. I'd be after specific details, name etc.

If you go to some medium's house, tell them lies/give them no clues etc. etc. they'll be able to tell you feck all...I could put money on that.

You'd have more success looking into the history of your house and where it was built to get an idea of who could be spooking you.

I watched a show lately where people were paying a fortune to so called psychics. The techniques they used were great. The way I see it, there's absolutely no harm if you are parting with no money or very little money but plenty of intelligent people get duped.

**starfish60** · 02-09-2010, 07:15pm

Originally Posted by bluekat

If you go to some medium's house, tell them lies/give them no clues etc. etc. they'll be able to tell you feck all...I could put money on that.

I don't know... I know someone whose account of visiting a medium was pretty astonishing. He had recently lost someone close to him, and had had some unexplained goings on in his flat - smells that seemed to come from nowhere, then disappear immediately, without fading away, lights flashing on and off, tv screen kept going blank, that sort of thing. (He had everything checked, but couldn't find any faults).

Anyway, he didn't say anything to the medium when he walked in, but the person in question seemed to come through, as they call it, and gave - via the medium - names, details, that were undeniably specific. Stuff that she couldn't possibly have known, like the nickname the person who'd died called him, which wasn't an obvious one that you'd guess.

He said he was completely blown away by the visit.

So I know there are a few genuine ones out there - among a sea of frauds. It's just finding them.

**bluekat** · 02-09-2010, 07:20pm

Looks like you've found your medium them

**starfish60** · 02-09-2010, 07:26pm

Originally Posted by bluekat

Looks like you've found your medium them

She's in London.
I'm in Glasgow.

Besides, it was over ten years ago he went to see her. For all I know she might not be doing it any more (she was working at the Colege of Psychic Studies in Knightsbridge), or she might be dead...

So, any mind-blowing mediums in Glasgow/WCS area?

**Tripod** · 02-09-2010, 07:51pm

Originally Posted by Solitaire

I'd love to see one, but I'm scared my mum wouldn't come through as she didn't believe in that sort of thing

Oddly I went to see a medium yesterday - one that was very highly recommended. And my mum who sounds the same as yours in the non believing way (!) did come through. The medium was incredible.

Anyway, Starfish, I've not read all the thread, but def find someone or an association that is recommended. Though you and I would go for completely different reasons! I've not been on here much and didn't realise you were having some spooky stuff going on!

Good luck!
x

**gizamojo** · 02-09-2010, 07:56pm

I would suggest the Spiritualist Church too as we went after we lost my Dad and they knew things that others would not have known. As others have said they may only pick up on people close to you but it might be worth a try. Also could you find any history about the house? Maybe it is someone who died there if it is all linked to the house? Good luck xxx

**Tigerpants** · 02-09-2010, 08:08pm

I'm a big believer, we had a lot of movement in our old house - doors closing, doorknobs turning etc. in the middle of the night in one of the boys' rooms.

My friend is that way inclined and came around and sorted it out for us. We also had trouble in another of our rooms so much so that certain people couldn't sleep the night in it, again she gave us some sound advice there too.

Our house was very, very full of people - well so it felt, but there were very few times I was bothered, apart from the time with the boys' room - didn't like that.

I know what you mean about thinking someone's walked down the stairs, there was a house in our village that I walked around once and I honestly felt someone walk past me - so much so that I apologised and then thought wtf?

But then Mr TP thinks I'm a bit of a

so go figure!