Do you ever feel...

**waterbabe** · 28-10-2009, 09:15am

.........You are too sensitive towards other peoples moods/emotions/feelings?

Is it possible to be too sensitive when dealing with other people?

I feel like I am overly sensitive when it comes to others. That I get "cut up", or stressed out over the way people are acting or their moods when they seem the total opposite to what those people are telling me..

I'm not explaining this very well, but a very simplified version of this could be .......if somebody seems down or quiet, but they tell me over and over again that they are ok and I'm imagining it....

I think I make my life harder by not being able to believe them, because my gut instinct tells me something different.

Does anyone else ever feel this way?

**Pippin** · 28-10-2009, 09:25am

yes I do, very often. Especially with DH atm.

**jellybean** · 28-10-2009, 09:27am

Yes I do this alot. I am trying to stop but it's hard

**dingbatsbird** · 28-10-2009, 09:28am

Yes. I quite often blame myself for other people's moods even when it clearly isn't anything to do with me.

It's a female "weakness" I think

**waterbabe** · 28-10-2009, 09:30am

So I'm not crazy!!!

I feel like I make the world so much harder for myself at times by being over sensitive.

**wickenwoman** · 28-10-2009, 09:33am

I do understand what you mean. But....

DH can be like this with me. I can be a naturally quiet person, sometimes he keeps on and on asking me what's wrong. Usually there's nothing wrong but there is by the time he's finished asking (if that makes sense)

. I work in a very emotionally demanding job and sometimes I just need a bit of quiet time after a hectic day, it is not a reflection on him and it doesn't mean I've got the hump with anyone either, I just need to unwind.

We've come to an agreement over the years. If there's something wrong I will tell him. I promise not to subject him to the silent treatment if he promises to believe me when I say I'm fine.

**Damsella** · 28-10-2009, 09:35am

I agree with wickenwoman. I would be a bit

if someone kept insisting there was something wrong with me, if I was insisting I was fine

Even if there was something wrong with me, if I didn't want to talk about it then I'd prefer the other person accepted that and didn't get all

herself

**waterbabe** · 28-10-2009, 09:50am

Thanks wickedwomen & damsella good advice!

I guess that its not just when people are quiet, I seem to pick up on tension/anger all sort of emotions...

Then I'm like a "dog with bone" until I get to the bottom or it, or alternatively stress myself out or get upset over something which is probably nothing.... its not a good habit to have..

I'm even like it with clients who come in the office, my Boss will think they were perfectly happy..........but I will pick up on entirely different vibes altogether....

I really need to learn to turn it off, so to speak.

**wickenwoman** · 28-10-2009, 10:00am

DD was at her boyfriend's the other day she made a flippant comment that really upset him. His mum heard the comment and DD thought his mum gave her a filthy look. She thought she'd mortally offended his mum and was horrified. She spent the next two hours in absolute turmoil, she'd upset her boyfriend (who was acting like a twerp) and his mum. She went back to his house to apologise to his mum. His mum told her not to be so bloody daft, she'd done nothing wrong and it was her son that was behaving like a first class pratt.

The point to my post is it's very easy to read what you think into someone else's actions/look. It doesn't make it the truth though.