Sorry All another mother rant

[Crazyfool]

Thanks to all that replied here http://www.damsels.org/forum/showthread.php?t=15191

Basically my mother does my head in . She came round yesterday and I said go upstairs and see the nursery its all done. So she did then said oh here is a " stuffed toy round at ours that is musical " Let me explain its a dog and she bought it for my brother as a joke. It does " I'm singing in the rain " and its so annoying . Anyway its been in the house about 2 years and she tries to give it to anyone.

I said oh sorry its ok " I dont want it " there isn't alot of room in the nursery and baby hasn't even been born yet , plus I saw the family cat playing with said toy so its full of cat fur. Plus its not suitable for a baby its has pieces that pull off etc . Mother never spoke to me for 30 mins after this and left with an excuse she needed to do her ironing .

Today dad said mam had been complaining I had really upset her . I told him the facts and he said " Oh for gods sake she is soooo touchy and moody " anyway we had a real good talk and he knows I am raging with her .

Apparently she is gutted my baby will go to a creche 3 days a week as she feels she will never see it She works full time and so I cant rely on her , my dad is partially sighted and almost blind and getting worse so WTF ??????? She said its their place to look after it .

Anyway I got so mad I told my dad I am utterly sick of her , our relationship is strained at the best of times etc He said he would have a word . I said if she is so bothered with a old stuffed singing dog WTF would she be like when I disagreed on other things to do with my baby ????

She keeps telling people that she should be the one that is my birth partner incase anything goes wrong I told my dad we dont get on enough and are certainly not close .I am so bloody raging with her . I ended up telling him we would have a big fall out before long .


Sorry all I just feel so bloody stressed about the whole thing

[August Girl]

Ohh I know just what you mean!! Mums sulk at the most ridiculous of things. I think your dad knows what's going on and at least your feelings are out there now and not bottled up.

Just remember he's your baby and you do what you think best and don't feel like you have to justify it to your mum.

Slightly PMSL at the singing dog

[Crazyfool]

Claire I know if it wasn't so pathetic I would laugh . I told my mate today who knows the history etc . I spent most of my childhood/ teenage years at hers house out of my mothers way

She couldn't believe that she is making a drama out of an old joke toy dog. I mean its not like I throw back a present she bought for the baby ????

[Julesb]

CF, sorry to hear that she has got to you again, you really don't need this right now.

You must stand your ground with her and so what if she goes off in a huff.
I've lost count of the number of times in the last year that my mother has copped the nark and walked out slamming my back door behind her.

She sounds like she'd be the last person that you would want in the delivery room with you and to keep saying that "something might go wrong" is sooo out of order.

If it was me i wouldn't even tell her when your labour starts, just get your DH to ring her when it's all over and you have both had chance to recover a little.

[Crazyfool]

Jules I have told OH we cant tell anyone till its born

Her thing about something may go wrong is based on .... my cousin had a baby and it was in the wrong way round back to back ( I think ) she struggled and long delivery etc and well it died they never resusutated him . She was left in labour too long , needed an emergancy section but they left it too late.
It was awful , obviously but she reckons if she'd of been in with my cousin it would never of happened
I told dad that her being there in a situation like that wouldn't of helped and it wouldn't of prevented it.

God I am so sick of her atm , I have a really bad headache and just want to scream tbh My poor dad is stuck in the middle though he has to live with her .