Do you ever worry you dont do enough with your children?

**SaintSarah** · 10-06-2009, 10:35am

I am worrying at the moment - I am absolutely shattered with this pregnancy and I think my sickness is returning so Alex and I are doing the minimal - we go out every morning for a walk with the dogs, and more often than not again in the afternoon - we go to baby groups on a Thursday and Friday and normally see a friend on one of the other days but other than that we are just at home.

This week, other than walking the dogs we've not been out

We do activities around the house so I dont think he is bored, but should I be worried that we are not going out more

**racqy-rooster** · 10-06-2009, 10:37am

I think your time with Alex is brilliant, I never got to do that much with Ellis as I returned to work fulltime when he was 4 months old.

Now he is in school and we actually do more together, swimming, play outdoors, go to parties, mostly is related to him being at school.

I would not beat yourself up especially if you are feeling unwell.

**Franny** · 10-06-2009, 10:49am

I think at that age they expect a lot less than an older child. You do more with him than I did with R at that age.

**Lexie B** · 10-06-2009, 10:50am

Do not sweat it SS, honestly

Sounds like you're doing more than enough, 1 or 2 walks a day = fresh air, play groups = socialising/inter-active play. Play dates with friends - again, socialising/learning time etc Home time - so chilling/mummy time

What more do they need?

Give yourself a break, especially that you are pregnant!

Don't be too hard on yourself.

**Mrs B** · 10-06-2009, 10:51am

What they said. You still do more with him than I do. Oh, and btw he won't remember any of this or be affected by it at all; I was worried about how much telly Sol watched in my last pregnancy and that it would be an unbreakable habit, but he hardly ever watches it now. Be kind to yourself sweetie!

**Roo** · 10-06-2009, 10:57am

I've never really 'done' anything at home with either of mine

They seem fine, and play independently brilliantly

I *do* have to get out every day (if i'm not working), but that's down to my own cabin fever rather than their 'need' to do things or see people

**Cheetara** · 10-06-2009, 11:00am

Don't worry SS, I think you're doing more than enough. The constant tiredness I felt when I was pregnant with Lucy and had Thomas to look after was like nothing I've ever experienced before. It truly is exhausting! Don't be so hard on yourself

**SaintSarah** · 10-06-2009, 11:14am

Thank you so much everyone, I've been really beating myself up about it the last few days.....so I'll relax a bit, thanks

**lisa82** · 10-06-2009, 11:27am

We only go down the allotment and up to the farm with the kids, but then thats to do the horse, we dont have kids days out much which i hate

Talked oh to take us out this afternoon though to see some ducks and deer

We do stuff indoors though.

**Mrs Flowers** · 10-06-2009, 12:43pm

Our days tend to involve a mix of 1) walk to shops or drive to big shops, 2) housework, 3) reading some books/playing together. Sometimes will go to swings or park. Have now dropped my baby group as I didn't feel v welcome and didn't feel M would miss it. So I don't feel I do a lot either, but you can't run all day activities a la nursery esp when ill/pregnant and it is good for them to occupy themselves a bit and learn independent play (so I tell myself!).