oh my god - that's it - her Mum left for Spain tonight....!

**Tazdevil** · 07-09-2006, 11:36pm

I'm so shocked - it's been a real day in this house today I have to say

After nearly a year of will she/won't she, SD's Mum left for Spain 'tonight'. She rang her (nearly dropped dead from the shock of her receiving a call from her Mum in itself

) at 8.30pm tonight and told her in that 'oh so friendly way' that yep, that was it, house gone, her other Brother enrolled in school in Spain for the last week already now, and her and the new Man were off shortly in the car to go re-join him back out in Spain for good

She's not seen her at all since the first week of the summer holidays, she's only half an hour up the fecking road for fecks sake and even worse is not even half an up the road tonight but 15 fecking mins. as she's left the house and was at her Mum's house a lot nearer

I'm aghast - she won't be seeing her now until Christmas and I can't believe she didn't even spend an hour saying goodbye

To be honest, what else can I type? Most of you know the history of this by now and I'm just too dumbfounded to type any further thoughts on the matter - just needed to express my utter shock - yet again.

FWIW, my reaction to SD was only one of "come here and give me a hug" and "I'm always still here to talk in spite of how diffiuclt the last year has been" this solicited a "I miss my Mum so much" from her

which is more than I've got from her lately, so hopefully she read my tone well. Of COURSE she misses her Mum, poor cow and she should have jolly well seen her too

I can't replace her Mum, and never will do and she's every right to miss her Mum - she's 12

I also feel extremely sorry for ex Husband No. 2 tonight sitting in the old house he used to share with her Mum knowing his Son has gone to Spain for good

I liked this man tremendously and so did my husband (not bad really for an ex-husband and what was for a long time the new one) and I just can't imagine the horror and despair he must be feeling right now

What a trail of devastation to leave behind eh

**Damsella** · 07-09-2006, 11:41pm

Oh god, your poor step daughter. Her mother is a prime A shit.

It must be hard for you, having to deal with the fallout.

I am almost speechless that a mother could treat her daughter like that. What a stupid, selfish cow.

**Tazdevil** · 07-09-2006, 11:45pm

i just have to hide the anger now Damz really. She doesn't need that to burden her more. I rang hubbie at work so he can get his anger out of the way tonight - because she needs both our support more now than ever.

It's one thing to know it's coming, but quite another when it 'actually' happens, and in such a shit manner. Hubbie told me he was shaking with rage, and I told him that in the morning he needs to give her the biggest hug ever. Nothing we can do to alter this situation or her Mum - but we can try and soften the blow as much as possible here.

I doubt she's sleeping up there

**alex** · 07-09-2006, 11:49pm

Taz nothing really constructive to say except

to you and your family.

**Tazdevil** · 07-09-2006, 11:54pm

thank you Alex

**alex** · 07-09-2006, 11:57pm

Your'e welcome hun

i couldn't read and not post.
Take care petal and try and get some sleep x

**Pikeypants** · 08-09-2006, 12:02am

Words fail me Taz.

I am so so sorry for S. She must be heartbroken.

FWIW I think that you have done everything right, in the right tone, with the right words, throughout this whole farce. You can do no more, than just be there for her. Poor poor darling. xxx

**Tazdevil** · 08-09-2006, 12:05am

thanks Pikey

i think she is definitely heartbroken. I did say "were there any regrets about not going herself and not to worry about offending me at all". She said not going to Spain wasn't her problem at all, she still didn't want to go, it had just hit her hard tonight how much she was really missing her Mum.

I'm glad she was as honest as she could be, although what lurks behind I just don't know

Please god, let this woman start making this up to her soon - please!

**Pancake01** · 08-09-2006, 07:40am

I can not beleive she didn't even say goodbye! What kind of mother is that? Well, we all know the answer. I'm so sorry she is going through this. You sound like you are doing everything right. Can you do something nice with her at the weekend to try and take her mind off it?

**Moose** · 08-09-2006, 08:34am

Ah bless, this is so sad for your SD. I can't understand how she can just go like that - I would want to hug my daughter so hard, but then again I wouldn't be able to leave her in the first place.

Thank god she has a lovely family unit with you and your DH.

Take care,

Moose x