Having a really hard time with her

**Roseyposey** · 03-03-2009, 11:47am

DD is 3 yrs 5 months. I'm sure its just very up and down at this age, but i need reassurance.

We had a fantastic few weeks since Christmas, with great behaviour and things going well. DH is now redundant and at home and its all gone to sh*t. She's being really grumpy (also just had a bad cold) and acting spoilt and wanting our attention ALL THE TIME, its stifling, I feel suffocated, keep my patience for ages and then just explode, sending to her room and shouting to make her cry just to stop her being so HYPER. She just can't seem to settle to anything, sit down for 5 minutes, she's exhausting herself as well as us.

When do they learn to start just sitting and spending quiet time, I thoughy by now the young toddler thing would have worn off.

We are going to Devon on hols next week and its not appealing right now.

**Roo** · 03-03-2009, 11:57am

Hmm, reading that I'm guessing her current behaviour is down to picking up on the fact that life has changed in that daddy is now around all the time when before he was at work, and you'll both be (naturally!) stressed about jobs, money etc. I'd just try and hang on in there, remember she's still very little, she doesn't understand that you're worried or why, and I hope things calm down all round soon for you

**Roseyposey** · 03-03-2009, 12:32pm

Thanks. I know its probably this too, but doesn't make it any easier. We are in a nasty viscious circle of her being trouble, then us (or me) getting cross with her and setting her off again. I just don't feel strong or patient enough to end the cycle.

**mrsdunny207** · 03-03-2009, 12:53pm

maybe you can try and think of some new routines (involving your DH?) so DD knows what to expect each day. I know my DD gets so bored if we are in the house all day that even a walk to the park or a trip to Tesco's makes the day easier. There could be some toddler groups or something to occupy her attention for a while.

I'm not sure what the age is they start to really do their own thing happily, a friends DD is 6 and I know she can spend time reading etc on her own so only another few years to go

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Hope things get better.