How do you forgive?

**wickenwoman** · 08-06-2008, 04:09pm

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**Katiekipper** · 08-06-2008, 04:16pm

I think the most important question here Deb, is have you asked him, outright, why he is sleeping on the floor? You need to get that 1 question answered, without him saying "I don't know" and without asking any other questions or discussing any other issues. If he still wants sex then he's obviously not repulsed by you, but maybe he senses that you've fallen out of love with him, or that you are in a bad place and need some space and possibly he's just doing what he thinks is best. Could you print out what you've written here, give it to him to read and then ask him to tell you what his feelings are? Do you want to be married to him, or do you want to keep the family together for the kids? If he thinks you only want him there to create a 'proper family' that may be pushing his actions to withdraw from you and the family.

I wish I had some answers hon, and obviously I don't know him and he may just be being an arse, but if you can try and talk about that 1 issue first then you might be able to move on...

**claireh** · 08-06-2008, 04:16pm

First of all

WW from your husband saying to you 'If he had really hurt you' I would say that it sounds like he may be feeling pretty alone and at the end of his rope too. He may not know how rejected you feel.

Is there any chance at all that someone could look after your children for a few hours so that you both can have a frank discussion?

They way things are just now is no way to live. You both deserve better. By this I mean that things can change and it does not have to mean the end.

xxx

**Amanda36** · 08-06-2008, 04:18pm

Ahhh Deb, hun

To start with you are not ugly, you do not look abnormal, you are beautiful and pretty. Kind, loving a wonderful mum and a great woman.

It's obvioulsy T that has the problem, because as far as i can see there is nothing at all wrong with you. He probably has a problem with the sex part and nothing to do with you, but he doens't want to admit it to you. Will he talk about it with you?

Bloody hell if you're ugly what the hell am i! lol

please please please leave the tablets, there are a lot of people who would miss you, who loves you.

You know where i am, any time of day or night if you want to talk.

xxxxamanda xxxx

**wickenwoman** · 08-06-2008, 04:19pm

I have asked, time and time again but never get an answer. He has promised to change time and time again. If I didn't still love him I wouldn't be here but today I just feel so so low. I'm actually quite scared of how I feel.

**chuckle_monster** · 08-06-2008, 04:38pm

Can't give advice now your first post is gone but couldn't go without leaving a huge

You're obviously going through a hard time at the moment

xxx

**calfee** · 08-06-2008, 04:45pm

Aww Deb, I dunno what you said! I think I can guess the jist of it though.

**Red Panda** · 08-06-2008, 08:44pm

Deb

Like Kate and the others have said................you are a good person..................I don't know what you posted as I have only just seen this......................having met you and the kids I can honestly say you are one of the most genuine caring people I know (and you make fab chocolate brownies)

You have helped me when I needed someone...............let me be there to help you............you know where I am and you have my number.............call me..................

Karen