I have decided...

**Minky** · 03-08-2006, 09:39pm

And have told Mr Minky

that I will give it until the end of the year, and then if I am not pg by then, that I will be officially giving up and accepting that we're only getting one miracle baby in our lives.

I suppose what I have really decided is that I'll give another IVF a go with the ARGC if they say that it's worth it. The chances of me conceiving naturally are really low so it's incredibly stupid for me to get my hopes up every month.

If I were five years younger it would be another story

but now that I'm

erm 43 I have to be realistic about what is possible.

So. A bit pointless really, not sure why I'm posting this other than that it's good to see it written down

.

Minky

**WoollyNewty** · 03-08-2006, 09:42pm

Sounds like a good plan to me Minky - personally I feel that if you don't give the ARGC a go you'll always wonder 'what if?'.

It goes without saying that I wish you all the luck in the world.

xxx

**Blonde Girl** · 03-08-2006, 09:44pm

Awwwww sweetie. I have NO idea what to say, but just wanted to give you some

, a few of these

and a big

**Chocolate Lips** · 03-08-2006, 09:45pm

To be honest Minky, I think it is a good decision. I know it must be very hard for you (my sister had to come to a similar decision but for slightly different reasons) but there comes a point when you need to move your life on if you know what I mean and I think there is an element of TTC that holds everyone back, when you are TTC it is what is on your mind a lot of the time.

Fingers crossed that your last attempt at IVF works for you and you get the second miracle baby you deserve.

**Angel** · 03-08-2006, 09:46pm

That's a very brave decision and one you've obviously really thought about. I agree with Woolly that if you don't try the ARGC then you'll always wonder "what if ?"

Best of luck with it and I hope it works out for you

**Jelly** · 03-08-2006, 10:00pm

good luck with your ARGC. I sincerely hope you'll get your miracle baby.

**half-full** · 03-08-2006, 10:08pm

Good luck Minky

October will be here in no time, I promise.

**Princess Fiona** · 03-08-2006, 11:20pm

I think its probably for the best in that i think its TOO much to keep taking on every month. I REALLY hope that the next lot of IVF goes well and that you get the 2nd baby you and Mr Minky deserve

Who knows, if you're more chilled about it because you're not thinking about it so much, it might just "happen" :fingerscrossed"BIL & SIL have come to a decision over the weekend too, although theres was because they had bad news with their IVF, she had NO eggs at all and has been told she has 2 options, use a donor which there is a 2 yr waiting list for or adopt. I think she's decided that she doesn't want to continue the IVF, its really messed her up and she's gained loads of weight and its made her ill, they're planning on adopting but they're taking a year off 1st and having a fab holiday in the Maldives as a treat for themselves.PS: October will be here before you know it!

**Devil Girl** · 03-08-2006, 11:34pm

Good luck Minky

It is understandable that you have set yourself a limit (I have my fingers crossed that you will have a funky bun...or two baking before then

)

shining star · 03-08-2006, 11:38pm

I think that's a really brave decision Minky. I guess there has to be some cut off point, otherwise you might make yourself miserable with all the ups and downs of ttc, and it's got to take its toll on you and your family.

Fingers crossed for the ARGC!

ss
xx

**Mrs Bunny** · 03-08-2006, 11:38pm

I really admire you Minky and your quest for your miracle second baby. It sounds to me that you have thought long and hard about this and this is the right decision for you.
I wish you all the luck in the world and really hope it works out for you and there is a happy ending to your quest.
Take care.

Mrs B

Lois Lane · 04-08-2006, 07:08am

Good Luck Minky. So glad that you and Mr M have made a decision about what to do next and you know that we are all rooting for you to get that miracle baby you deserve.

Lots of love

Lois xx

**Amethyst** · 04-08-2006, 07:20am

Lots of luck

.

Amethyst x

**bisy backson** · 04-08-2006, 07:23am

good luck minks, & i hope you find peace with this one way or another!

bbxx

**DKNI** · 04-08-2006, 07:54am

Minky I really really really hope that you are not able to partake in any of the Christmas alchol related festivities as you will be cooking your own little miracle.

The world needs another gorgeous baby from you and Mr Minky and I so hope that you get it.

I have everything crossed for you and I am thikning only good thoughts for you.

Good luck

**calgal** · 04-08-2006, 09:09am

well done on coming to the decision Minky, it must have been so difficult, i really really hope Mr. T will be able to provide you the miracle you are looking for, as you deserve it so much.
take care
xx

**Damsella** · 04-08-2006, 09:12am

HUGE good luck for your next, SUCCESSFUL!!, attempt!!

But, the mind being what it is, I don't think that you would ever stop hoping each month. So if you were really serious about stopping ttc then you would need to get a coil, or go on the pill. That, I believe, is the only way you would stop symptom spotting and knicker watching.

And if you can't bring yourself to take contraception - then you're not really ready to give up.

MsNat · 04-08-2006, 09:15am

I so hope you get everything you wish for Minky. We'll all be here in October with our

**Valentine** · 04-08-2006, 09:15am

I have no idea how hard it must be for you to have trouble ttcing but i do think your plan sounds like a good idea. It must be an incredible stress on both you and Mr Minky and one more go will put ypur minds at ease of thoes 'what ifs'. Im wishing you ALL the luck in the world and have everything crossed for you!

**Alycat** · 04-08-2006, 09:16am

Minky, well done on setting yourself a target, I really really hope that you get pregnant before the year is out, have everything crossed for you. You are a very brave woman and deserve this soooo much