In Law rant

[Abbie]

Sorry, I just have to let off a bit of steam here as I am so p*ssed off with my in-laws it's untrue.

My Mil's favouritism knows no bounds

Yesterday, Ellie had her grommets done. My mum made her up a little goodie bag of bits to do in the hospital and phoned countless times to see if she is OK, my brother and his girlfriend bought her a stack of comics and a little card, my grandmother has phoned at least half a dozen times to see how she is and has sent her a box of DVDs for her to watch while if she feels too tired to play. My entire family have clubbed together and ordered some flowers, which have just been delivered and they're beautiful and she's so thrilled.

My OH's family haven't even phoned to see how she is. They all knew she was going in yesterday but not one of them have rung to see how it went, if she's OK or anything. I know it wasn't a major operation but it's still a pretty major thing for a 5 year old to go through so a phone call would have been nice.

On the other hand, when my OH's nephew had tonsilitis a couple of months ago my MiL was ringing round all of us getting us to send him get well cards, ring him up and made a huge effort for him.

It's Grace's first birthday today and none of my OH's family have acknowledged it at all, no card or anything. I know we said we'd be having a proper party in a couple of weeks as we've so much on at the moment, but surely a card for a FIRST birthday isn't too much to expect? All my family have sent cards for today or phoned, just something to mark the actual day of her birthday, and are saving presents and things for her party. Absolutely nothing from her own Grandparents on her first birthday.

We've decided to have a cake and a few people over tonight (as I felt too mean not doing anything on the actual day) but MiL said she doesn't feel like it tonight. She only lives up the road - is 10 minutes to say happy birthday really too much to ask of her?

Grrr - bloody in laws

[Pancake01]

Eek! They do sound a horrid lot. Happy Birthday to Grace, btw and hope that Ellie is feeling ok.

[tekkencat]

:choc: for Ellie and a big buuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrp to the inlaws (i didnt know how to blow a raspberry)

and a big :bday: to Grace too

[Cat Queen]

Yes know exactly where you are coming from on this one, I have In Laws just the same, since my OH's sister had a baby my 2 hardley get a look in.

Nothing constructive to add, just to say you aren't alone, and I know how bloody frustrating it is.

Happy birthday to Grace by the way:smile:

[Lois Lane]

That's disgusting Abbie - I'm totally :angry: on your behalf.

Happy birthday to Grace and hope Ellie feels better soon

Lois xx

[Abbie]

Thanks everyone.

I know Grace couldn't care less as she's got no idea it's her birthday, but the total lack of thought really winds me up.

Ellie on the other hand knows exactly what's going on and I'm furious that they've upset her with their complete lack of thought or care

My MiL is a total nasty piece of work so I'm used to it and I don't expect anything from her now, but tbh I'm surprised at my sisters and brother in law, but then they can be a bit like my MiL and if it doesn't revolve around them or their kids they're not interested.

It sucks - they're only little children and it's them it affects

[Julesb]

That's not nice at all.

Just thank your lucky stars that you managed to pick the decent one out of the family.

Happy birthday to Grace.x

[August Girl]

She does sound like a right old moo.

Happy Birthday to Grace!!! She won't know the diference. Z spent most of his 1st birthday on a motorway.

And I hope Ellie is feeling better soon. She has had so many lovely things from her other rellies that hopefully she hasn't noticed how mean her other granny is.

[Abbie]

And I hope Ellie is feeling better soon. She has had so many lovely things from her other rellies that hopefully she hasn't noticed how mean her other granny is.

She's fine thanks, she's had a big sleep and is now tearing the house up in the usual manner.

It's not really what people buy her, that's an extra special surprise for her, it's the complete lack of thought from them. It wouldn't have killed anyone to ring up Ellie and ask her how she was and tell her how brave she'd been. She was scared and worried and did brilliantly so deserves a bit of spoiling from her own Grandparents IMO

Same with Grace, it wouldn't have killed them to send a card or pop in tonight for 1/2 an hour, they don't live far away.

Never mind, my family and some close friends are coming tonight to spoil them both so MiL can poke it

[katkinn]

oh god people like her don't fecking deserve to have grandchildren. When I think of all the older people I know who would love to be grandparents, this sort of crappy behaviour makes me :hissyfit:

And how can you be so blatantly cruel and unfair to a CHILD. Mean old bitch.

To be honest, since you have a recent direct comparison with her daughter's child, I would actually say something to her and ask WHY she didn't do the same for Ellie.

It at least may make her stop and think.................. (anyway, you can get great pleasure out of watching her squirm!!!)

[Cherrypie]

How mean your in-laws sound!

Get well soon to Ellie, and happy first birthday to Grace!! xxxx

[Abbie]

And how can you be so blatantly cruel and unfair to a CHILD. Mean old bitch.

Because she hates me and will do anything she can to get at me, even if it affects the girls.


I would actually say something to her and ask WHY she didn't do the same for Ellie.

My OH has pulled her up on it before and it goes straight in one ear and out the other, she doesn't even have the decency to squirm.

99.9999999% of the time I let it go straight over my head and refuse to rise to her shennanigans but this time she can stick it where the sun doesn't shine, we're going to have fun tonight and she certainly won't be missed

[Florence]

She sounds awful Abbie. At least Ellie is doing well they/you have lots of other family and close friends who can be relied upon, so they will still have a great time tonight. TBH if she is that bad I probably wouldn't want here there anyway! You are right though, it is your little girls she is upsetting, so I can understand you being upset on their behalf.

[Abbie]

Sorry, a bit more ranting today.

Ellie's playschool report arrived this morning, and IMO it's absolutely brilliant.

I was SO proud and pleased it hurt, so I wanted to tell everyone. MiL is always complaining that I don't tell her what's going on in the girls' lives (I do, she has selective memory) so I thought I'd kill 2 birds with one stone - have a proud mummy moment and give her some news that's she's forever banging on about wanting to know.

Did she say "well done" or "that's great"?

Did she feck.

Ellie spoke to her first as she wanted to tell her nanny how well she was doing (she'd already spoken to my mum and wanted to tell her other nanny). She was chatting away for a couple of minutes then I could hear her starting to get a bit upset so I took the phone.

I spoke to MiL and we chatted for a couple of minutes, I told her about the report and what was in it when she said:

"they probably tell all the parents their little darlings are well behaved and polite, even if they are brats"

She then followed that up by telling me that Luke (SiL's son) had just had his report and that it was excellent, he was polite and well behaved and was doing much better at reading and writing than Ellie

Of course he bloody is you stupid woman, he's 2 years older than Ellie and has already been at primary school for 2 years.

20 minutes later she's still blathering on about how fantastic Luke is and how fabulously he's doing at school.

Would it have really killed her to say well done?

I suppose after all this time I should have realised what response we'd get, but I thought she could have at least said well done

Horrible, nasty woman. I hate her with every part of my body at this precise second

[Pancake01]

I can't understand why people have to be so horrible to children, which is what she is being. I'm so sorry Ellie was upset by it, that's dreadful.

We all hate her too (not that that's any consolation) :angry: .

[Abbie]

I'm so sorry Ellie was upset by it, that's dreadful.

She's fine now, she's forgotten it I think and she's used to nanny being snippy with her plus the fact that she's she's talked £10 and a McDonald's happy meal out of Daddy when he gets home


We all hate her too (not that that's any consolation) :angry: .

:lol: :lol: :lol: thanks.