Jealous of pg..........

[Loukes]

Not sure where to post this really...........

I feel quite stupid for saying it. - I'm not TTC or anywhere near a stage where I might be - But I am a very maternal person. Recently things have been getting to me more and more.

Alot of my friends are pg - and expecting at various times over the next 4mnths. 3 out of my 4 closest friends are expecting.

Anyway - OH has just called and told me that his best mate's gf has just had their baby. my reaction??? - to cry. His mate lives abroad so we arent even going to see this baby but jealousy just took over.

I suppose it must have something to do with OH already having a child (sure you all know the story!) -

I just get so jealous. I work in a small office with 5 other women. 4 of them have children, 1 never intends on having them. So child talk is often happening for most of the day. Sometimes I have to escape to the loo, or kitchen cos i feel like i might cry.

Again I dont know why I am posting..........I know me and OH arent in the situation to have children of our own, we live with my mum, we dont have alot of money, and we both really want to marry before having children.

But I cant seem to control my jealousy...................

[Dink]

You poor thing! :higgies: It's not always a bad thing to be jealous; to me it just sounds like you are looking forward to that stage in your life.

[Loukes]

More than you would ever believe!!!!!!!!!

[Cupcake's Mum]

hi,

just wanted to send you a hug, i personally am finding it hard to see pregnant women at the moment too. big hugs :higgies: :hugs:

[parkejm]

More hugs from here. :hug: I just spent the whole morning at a hospital appointment absolutely surrounded by pg women and children. I blubbed my eyes out.

Even when I thought it wasn't the right time, I was jealous.

janice x

[Julesb]

I'm sure it's a very natural feeling.

Hopefully you will be announcing your pregnancy when the time is right for you.

Sending you a hug and a hug too for Mrs Lexx and parkejm.x

[tekkencat]

oh loukes - its only natural - although i have a 5month old i look at the chicks on p&b and those on ttc and wish it was me again xx

[lewpylew]

It is just a natural maternal instinct in us and you should not be ashamed. I have 2 young children and still pine for mums to be. I look at them and remember how happy it is to be PG and long to be in their situation.

It just shows how caring and loving you are and one day you will get to share that with a baby of your own!

Lewpy xx

[Jamtart]

aw hunny :higgies: don't feel down! you will be a mum one day and you will make a fantastic mum! Try not to let it get you down... when everything else has fallen into place (your house with D and engagement/wedding that will all happen soon too) you will be able to start trying for your much wanted baby!

You're still young and have plenty of time, I know that doesnt help but its true! plus think of all the practice you can get in with your friends babies without all the yucky stuff :teehee: (damn I wish you lived closer now so I could leave bubs with you to get the practice in :doh: :lol: )

Big hugs to Mrs L and Janice too :hug: dont want to hijack K's thread but I feel for you! You are both so brave and strong!

[Lyndsey]

Loukes, I know how you feel as I felt like this not so long ago, but you are still young and there is loads of time. I am the same; engaged to OH, but have been at Uni, still living with an extended family member and long for the day when I feel I can get married and have children. It does pass though and, for the moment, maybe just enjoy your independence?:smile:

[Loukes]

Thanks guys - makes me feel bit better........

Just so strange that all my mates have got so much in common right now. 2 that dont really know each other that well have started emailing each other loads......

But, then I think, well none of you are married or likely to be (not a big deal but I'll get my day! some of them want to be married but their OHs have either done it before and dont want to do it again, or just dont want to) and then they will have all had their babies and I get to have mine on my own!!!!

Plus I suppose I have to think of all those things I can do that they cant......go out when I want, holidays, still have my 2 seater convertible car......................Still want a baby though!!!

Just am extra sensitive when someone gives birth or generally talks about their babies. Dont get me wrong I am happy for them........just jealous!

[Sparkly]

I think it's totally natural to feel that way - so many women do and I had my moments too. It felt like I was the last out of my friends to marry and have a baby but the timing doesn't matter - it's whatever is right for you.

Does your OH want the same things?

[Loukes]

yeah he does. In time when things are right!!

currently looking for a house - wedding should be in 2009 cos he has some shares set aside for the wedding fund!!! He can cash them in 2009. That was his idea not mine.

Then kids should hopefully follow shortly after.

We are very similar in what we want and where we are heading with our relationship.

Been and bought baby things for oh's best mate. Satisfied me for a while, but kept looking at them last night thinking......maybe I'll just keep this one!!!!

I know that should I be late i would sh*t myself!!!!!!!

[Sparkly]

:thumb:excellent - all sounds v promising, though I can definitely vouch for weddings on a budget :wink:. (A friend of mine who has her own event management company couldn't believe what we did for reasonably little money and said she honestly wouldn't have changed a thing.)


I know that should I be late i would sh*t myself!!!!!!! Hmmm... :puzzled:

[CountessDuckula]

I felt exactly the same as you before I got pg.

We had been trying for a few years and each time I heard someone else was pregnant, I'd get angrier and angrier...

It was when i was told my cousin was pregnant again that I sort of flipped and decided to stop actively trying and p!ssed off on holiday for a week with OH....we came back with a bun on the oven.

So, I definitely know where you are coming from...and it's totally natural

x