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Candlelight
12-09-2007, 09:39am
Round here there are 2 pre-schools. One offers only 3 sessions a week, the other offers 5, but it's more of a private day nursery so people use it to top up from the first pre school iyswim. So most kids do 3 sessions at the 1st one, and 2 at the 2nd

Anyway, to settle Oliver into pre-school number two I put him for 1 morning a week into their summer holiday club. He hated it so much and kept coming home with marks on him. None of the staff said anything other than he was 'fine' all day. Then one of the mums phoned me up to ask if Oliver was ok as her daughter had said Oliver had been lying on the floor crying:shock: I was so angry I phoned up and spoke to this complete numbnuts who said "errr no i can't remember that, he is fine". I really went off on one about the marks and scratches he has come home with. They also had a show and tell time and they managed to lose Oliver's treasured motorbike and their explantion was "another child must have taken it home". There was no "we'll do everything to find it".

The next week Oliver screamed and cried and didn't want to go as he said it's not fun and a boy is horrible to him. I just said of course he didn't have to go. This time when I phoned I managed to get through to the manager who grovelled and cried:yeahright: and apologised for what had happened and said she'd investigate it. AFter coming back to me, still grovelling, she said no one knew what had gone on but I KNOW something has because Oliver doesn't ever make a fuss at his other pre school and absolutely loves going. Anyway, I said I would give it another try at the beginning of term as she said holiday club and pre school are different

Last week I tried to get him to go..he crys and begs me not to take him. (Bear in mind he is desperate to go to the other pre school). I just can't take him...he is normally a happy, confident little man except when it comes to going there

The manager keeps phoning ip and almost seems to be making out I am giving in to Oliver's demands..this is not the case. Once in a blue moon he decides he doesn't want to go to preschool 1 but with a quick "right, we're going now" he scuttles into the car:teehee:

Dan thinks we should completely cut out preschool 2 and I do agree.

Is that what you'd do?

He starts at the school nursery next April anyway

nickimacrae
12-09-2007, 09:44am
Honestly, if it were me in your shoes, I would cut that preschool too. :nod: If I've got a bad feeling about somehing it generally good enough for me where the kids are concerned.

Pippin
12-09-2007, 09:47am
I would cut that preschool out too. It sounds a bit of a shambles and not surprisingly you've lost all trust in the people who run it.


x

Candlelight
12-09-2007, 10:11am
Yeah that's the thing, I have lost trust in them.

Gut instincts stand for alot don't they...

When he is at his usual pre school I have no worrys about leaving him there and even when I pick him up he says "Not going home yet mummy, I am too busy playing":lol: At pre school number 2, he can't get out of there quick enough

Angel
12-09-2007, 10:20am
I'd stop Oliver going there. If you don't trust who is looking after your child, they're unhappy and you're worrying about him while he's there I'd say there is no option.

:higgies:

lewpylew
12-09-2007, 10:32am
I would stop Henry going there if it were me. It is making him unhappy, it is not worth causing him the distress xx

irislili
12-09-2007, 10:45am
I totally agree with the others - I wouldn't send Caleb to somewhere he so obviously disliked. Its really not worth the hassle in the morning x

Tekkencat
12-09-2007, 10:54am
id be tempted to cut it out too as its not doing him any good (by the sounds of it)

This is only my pov and not a dig - but ive never been sure of using more than 1 preschool/nursery unless its unavoidable - different rules/children/teachers etc etc(iyswim)

Candlelight
12-09-2007, 10:57am
I will phone her today and say we are definately not coming back

Like you say, the hassle in the mornings is not something I need, especially with the new baby soon


This is only my pov and not a dig - but ive never been sure of using more than 1 preschool/nursery unless its unavoidable - different rules/children/teachers etc etc(iyswim)
I totally agree normally, but they do work alongside each other because of the amount of sessions they each offer, and about 90% of children that go to one go to the other.
That said, I still didn't feel happy about Oliver swopping and changing.
Luckily he never has, he just went 1 morning a week to holiday club at the 2nd one, but has not started on going to both iyswim