Am I being completely nutty?

[Annie Goolahey]

I've got myself into a whole tizz about J's nursery teacher.

When I picked him on Friday she requested I send him in in T-shirts from then on as he was sweating alot in his long-sleeve tops (which are just long sleeve t-shirts, but anyway..) Fair enough, I said, and he has been in T-shirts since.

Today she asked my CM to ask me to send him in wearing pants in future. He wears boxers as he would not toilet train in pants and kept wetting. He likes to be like daddy and boxers are all we have.
She said he seemed to have difficulty pulling them up (are pants easier???). Last week I had explained to her that as a late trainer he has only really got into the habit of pulling his own pants and trousers up and is still learning but trying very hard.

I am really peed off that this woman would suggest what my child should wear. I know it's a bit irrational, but it has made me feel like bad mummy and as if our decision to put him boxers was solely because they are more fashionable! I just think it was a little out of line. He has only been going there four days- for a total of about 6 hours!
She also said she was concerned he was going to the toilet a lot. (Yes, because it is new and there is water there and little children sized sinks where he has his own soap and towel... of course he is going to want to go to the loo a lot!)

AAAARRGGHH!!!

She is a lovely woman and very dedicated to her job but GIVE ME A FLIPPING BREAK PLEASE!

[Princess Fiona]

I'd just explain about the pants, i would be a bit annoyed if the teachers told me what not to put my child in to wear :angry: if he likes boxers and can get them up and down in time for him to use the toilet then i don't see a problem tbh??

[Annie Goolahey]

Exactly Katy... He does tend to give himself a wedgie pulling them up, but he has to learn! (and it doesn't bother him. He is very proud of his new skill)
And from his frequent naked ramblings around the house I can assure you he has NO problem taking them down!

[August Girl]

Ohhh it reminds me of when Z was at nursery. They thought he had some sort of water infection he was in the loo so often! Partly it was down to the loos being kiddie sized, and he was following his friends there THEN he happened across the fact he could avoid all situations he wasn't comfortable with (dressing up and singing!) that he used to say he needed to go just to get out of the room :faint:

The boxers sound fine to me:huh:

[SnaffleFox]

As a nursery teacher, I can't see any reason why he shouldn't wear boxers :happyno: The only thing I can think of is that if he did have an accident (of the No.2 variety) then pants keep it a bit more 'contained' than boxers do IYSWIM. Still, that's no reason for her to dictate what kind of underwear your son should be wearing!! I think it's cute that he wants to be like daddy anyway! :grin:

[smiley]

The Tshirts I can understand but the boxers ...:huh:


I'd just explain and make it clear that he is staying in boxers!

s xxx

PS J has pants and boxers and I cant see a difference for him managing them :huh:

[Alycat]

I can completely understand your frustrations here AG. You know J more than anyone else and you know what works for him.

Calmly explain to her that J dislikes pants and gets along much better with shorts, so he will be staying in them. The keep practicing with him pulling them up at home, he'll soon get the knack.

[sparkliness]

:hissyfit:
I think I'd say something along the lines of, 'my childminder gave me the message about the pants, but I'm afraid J will only wear boxers and while I understood your point about the T-shirts, I'm afraid I don't think you can dictate what underwear he wears.'

the worryign he's going to the loo a lot thing is silly - at M's nursery they even said how they all go ALL the time at first because it's a novelty.

AT least you know this woman is not ignoring your son all day....

Hope it gets better soon.

[Azana]

I know how you feel....E went to a holiday playgroup and on one day the woman there said I shouldn't have put her in the jeans she had on as she had quote "builder's bum" and was clearly "uncomfortable" and they'd best go in the bin!!!!

They WERE the last pair we had left and a little at the end of their life (nearly too small and the button was a bit loose) but I was really really peed off.

I think for me it was because criticising her clothes was somehow personal.

I can't see what her problem is with boxer shorts tbh and as for thinking he goes to the toilet a lot - sure they ALL do that at first.

Like Sparkliness' suggestion.

[Stephi103]

Well Tyler trained better in boxers then he did pants. I think with pants they can sometimes still feel like a nappy around them where the boxers are loose and feel like they have nothing on. So stuff what she says! Tyler found the pants harder to pull up and down too. Keep him in boxers.

[Princess Fiona]

Exactly Katy... He does tend to give himself a wedgie pulling them up, but he has to learn!

Well exactly and Lucy does that 20 times a day and she wears knickers, she spends the rest of the day picking them out of her butt :teehee: but its quite funny to watch so i just let her get on with it :oops: :teehee: