Why do I feel so frumpy?

[Dancing Queen]

Ever since I've had Elise, I've found it really hard to go out shopping and pick nice clothes. I find that if I go into a shop and see the styles that are fashionable, I feel like I'll look stupid, and like I'm trying too hard. And even then, I find it difficult to go into a shop and pick things that will look good together.

I tend just to stick to jeans, pretty much every day, with a non-descript boring top of some kind.
Not sure why this is, but I just seem to have completely lost my fashion sense. :cry: Did anyone else find this after having a baby? And will it return? It really depresses me going clothes shopping (yeah, :loco:I know) Maybe I should book a personal shopper in Debenhams or something.... :huh:

[Jamtart]

Have you tried accessorising???

I tend to stick to jeans and tops but I own loads of belts, necklaces, bangles and other jewellery to dress up an outfit.

You can really dress up jeans and a plain t-shirt with a funky belt and jewellery!

[Hungry Hippo]

I feel a bit like this especially as I have quite a lot of weight to lose still. At first I didn't buy any new stuff but in the last month I've bought a few new t-shirts and a pair of jeans from M&S. Now M&S is fine but I mainly went as it's convenient. My OH made a crack about me turning all Mumsy with shopping there and I started to wonder what should I be wearing. I've since been and bought some animal and paul frank stuff, I was considering going into Leeds and getting some other bits too. BUT now I'm worried this sort of stuff is too young and I'll look silly wearing indie stuff with a baby. So basically I can't win. I think I've forgotten what my personal style is or even if I had one :huh:. What is a first time Mum at 30 supposed to wear? It's hampering my going out to new groups as I'm worried about the first impression I'm giving out with my clothes. I realise it's a little silly but I do feel a little self conscious anyway.

Sorry, I realise this probably doesn't help but I do sympathise.

[Princess Fiona]

You've just described me exactly.

I lost all sense of fashion years before i was pg though (in fact i don't really think i had any fashion sense!) when i was pg i felt fat and ugly and frumpy so didn't try to hard to look nice. I always felt horrid whatever i wore so i spent my pregnancy looking pretty scruffy in huge baggy clothes.

After Lu i was very concious of the excess weight and wore baggy stuff for about 4 months or so after she was born. I did go out and buy new clothes but because i still felt fat and frumpy i bought boring stuff.

The majority of my wardrobe now is jeans, cords, and brown short sleeved crewneck tshirts :o :o I have about 12 tshirts that are more or less the same :o :o and i always wear them :(

I've tried accessorising but i just get it all wrong so gave up. I can't remember the last time someone commented on something i was wearing or said i looked nice, not surprising really as i always look like i'm wearing the same thing.

I'm in a rut and i've no idea how to get out of it. Having limit funds for clothes doesnt help either :roll:

[Diddlum]

Another one who needs help!! I used to go shopping for clothes EVERY Saturday (this is YEARS ago!) and would always buy something and if I didn't it would be because I had no money but always saw loads of things I wanted! Now, I just don't have a clue what to buy, can't be arsed to try things on and don't want to catch sight of my cellulite in the mirror. I also feel like I'd look ridiculous in the latest stuff. I usually start liking things just as they're going out of fashion. :roll:

What about a personal shopper? My neighbour works at Meadowhall (Sheffield shopping centre) and says at the beginning of every season she goes to the one at Debenhams in Meadowhall, tells her she's got £200 (or whatever) to spend and then buys a load of stuff. I'm thinking of trying that.

Maybe we should all meet up and make a day of it!! :laff: