Everytime i do it, i wonder why i bothered

[Princess Fiona]

Letting her out of the buggy that is. I drove up to the park this afternoon and let her walk from the car rather than the faff of getting the buggy out, i attempted to put reins on 1st but she insisted she was a "big girl" and didn't want them on, so i went for the wrist strap but again "rincess amona is a BIG girl" :rolleyes: so i said she could walk if she held my hand, literally 2 seconds after she held my hand an old man walked past with a scruffy little dog and she slipped my hand and went running over :doh: i chased her and nearly broke my neck in the process and made her put the wrist strap on, then had to literally DRAG her up the path to the actual park where i made her sit in silence for 2 mins on the bench before she was allowed to play because of not walking sensibly on the way in :oops:

She was FINE in the actual park, played nicely with the other children and apart from walking behind the swings 3 times :doh: after being told not to about 1,000 times :rolleyes: (luckily she didn't get hit :brainache: ) she was as good as gold.

I then had to pop into the Bank and thought rather than go back to the car for the buggy i'd walk her and see how she did. Again she refused the wrist strap so i told her that if she ran off or refused to hold hands she'd have to have the strap on.

So i spent 10 mins doing a 30 second walk :rolleyes: because she was looking around, looking behind her, scratching her arse, trying to touch people, walls etc etc all the way to the bank :hissyfit: then whilst we were in there she threw herself on the floor as soon as she realised it was the Bank :loco: and i ended up having to carry her for 10 mins whilst i waited in the que and got served (reminded me why i always use the deposit point :doh:)

So we went back to the car and then up to the Retail Park. I asked if she was going to be a BIG girl and walk nicely or if she wanted to go in the buggy, she wanted to walk and said she'd hold my hand, and even told me i could put the wrist strap on if she ran off. So about a min after closing the car door the strap was on because she ran off right in the middle of the carpark :oops: (slipped my hand) luckily it was dead :oops: i then had to drag her around Mothercare on the strap because she wouldn't walk properly and ended up carrying her back to the car and now i have a really really bad back :oops:

I swear she's going to be in a buggy until she's 16.

[Azana]

Cripes PF that doesn't sound fun - poor you.

I have the memory of a goldfish so can't remember if E was that bad at that age. I think the childminder had trained her to hold onto the buggy - assume you have tried that.....

[Princess Fiona]

Yes i have let her hold onto the buggy but she'd rather push it which is more of a pain than her walking free becaues she can't see in front of her and it steers like a train of 15 shopping trolleys and just causes general mayhem.

I may buy her some rollerskates and just pull her along :lol:

[Azana]

Sounds like a plan! She may be the only 2 year old in those heely (sp) things

[Princess Fiona]

PMSL!! She'd break her neck, honestly she's so accident prone, she can't even walk properly in normal shoes let alone wheeled ones :lol:

[August Girl]

:eek: I remember what Z was like in the bank, kids hate them for some reason

[Roseyposey]

I sympathise sweetie, my Lucy is exactly the same, its so frustrating isn't it?

Hopefully she will just turn a corner all of a sudden and you won't need the buggy around so much. Sorry you are having a rough time of it today. :higgies:

[Princess Fiona]

I know it was like as soon as she realised where we were she was possessed, a bit like Derek :teehee: god job she didn't start screaming out "mary loves dick" :lol:

[Princess Fiona]

I sympathise sweetie, my Lucy is exactly the same, its so frustrating isn't it?

:scratchchin: maybe its the name then :teehee:

[Franny]

R is still in the buggy. Everytime I let her out, she walks about 10 paces then clamours to be picked up and carried all the way. :rolleyes:

Unless she sees other children, that is or one of those blessed ride on things. Then she has a huge tantrum when I try to drag her off.

Luckily, she loves the bank. It has one of those wooden toy things where you have to weave rings round this metal loop (sorry, don't know what you call them).

She does like being in the buggy, though, which is just as well, really because the alternative is too much to bear.

[jobey]

That sounds just like my DD1 :nod:, so headstrong and always wants to do everything without any help.
It's more of an issue now because of DD2 being in the pushchair (when i'm not using a sling that is) and having to push that aswell.

No easy answer here though as i am in the same boat. We have reins and a wrist link but she decides she wants her hands in her pockets or she wants to hold the end of the reins once they're on :doh:

She is getting better though because of a couple of incidents where i was walking to/from my mom's house:

One day she decided she wanted to run along the pavement, i had the pushchair, she ran towards the road and i had to practically drive the pushchair into her to get her to stop, not a massively busy road but a car was coming..... i just knelt down with her there and then and told her how dangerous it was. She was a bit frightened herself, my heart was going like the clappers. She wasn't actually in any danger because she hadn't gone far enough but she was heading that way....

She also fell over the other day and i pointed out that if she held my hand she wouldn't have fallen, she seemed to understand this and has now started to hold my hand. The trouble is if DH takes her out because he "let's her off" instead of being firm with her- it drives me mad! :angry: 2 steps forward, 3 steps back.

Then there's my mom saying "you really ought to get her to hold your hand, it worries me to death" HOW exactly SHOULD i do it then?.....

So yes.....:oops: I feel your pain!

JoX

[Chell]

Have you tried to take the buggy with you and threaten her that she will go in it if she can't walk like a big girl? If she messes around warn her that she will be going into the buggy. If she continues then strap her into the buggy and explain why.

DD generally walks but I now threaten her with the reins if she messes me around.

[Karate]

As she likes pushing the buggy you could try what I did when K was little. I used to walk him around town with him pushing a toy buggy, he didn't mess around so much because his mind would be on the buggy.
I put some of the shopping in it too so he felt good about helping me.
It was sometimes driven into peoples ankles though!

[Princess Fiona]

I took her on my Avon round a couple of months ago with a toy buggy and OMG i'm never taking her out with it again, she was an absolute nightmare, trying to drive it into the road, lamposts and generally just not looking where she was going :rolleyes:

I think i'll superglue her ass to the buggy next time :smile:

[Candlelight]

It's so frustrating isn't it:hug:

I take the buggy with me if we are doing anything more than a few steps and it is a constant threat. If he runs off even once, he goes in it.

I went to get Dan's birthday presents yesterday and just wondered why nothing with kids can be easy:hissyfit:

[Cherrypie]

Without meaning to state the obvious, but I don't understand why you allow her to get out of the buggy if she does this every time? Apart from ruining your afternoon, it's dangerous surely?

[Princess Fiona]

Without meaning to state the obvious, but I don't understand why you allow her to get out of the buggy if she does this every time? Apart from ruining your afternoon, it's dangerous surely?

Because she's nearly 3 and she needs to learn to walk properly at some stage, or DO i just leave her in the buggy until she's so big she breaks it :huh: :huh:

If i don't allow her to walk, how is she ever going to learn?? Same with anything really, isn't it??

I'm already getting comments from "helpful" strangers "ooh you're too big for that pushchair aren't you" :doh: our friends little girl was 4 in March and STILL goes in the buggy a LOT and OMG it looks hiddeous, doesn't help she's the size of an 8 year old either but still, a child in school uniform, in a pushchair :loco:

Every time i do it i think "oh maybe she'll actually be good this time" but she's not?

[Chell]

She will do it when she is ready. My DS used a buggy on and off till he was three and a half. I take a buggy out for DD now but he and DD tend to share it as we do walk quite a distance.

I thought DS would never want to walk, he would behave but was lazy. Then all of a sudden one day he decided that he was going to walk. H ewalked the whole way to the town centre which is about 2 miles away.

[Candlelight]

Well Oliver is over 3 PF and I use the buggy alot

He does spend time out of it (but more in, especially since the road incident:no: ).

Luckily he is small, people think he's about 18 months, so no comments:lol:

He is slowly getting there and doesn't run off anywhere near as much as when he was first released from the buggy. I say it's her new found freedom that makes her run (it was with oliver)

Honestly, my advice would be to take the buggy with you, let her walk but if she runs off, even once, she goes back in. Oliver is learning this way

[Princess Fiona]

Well i've been letting her walk since she was about 15 months and tbh she was better then :rolleyes:

My Sisters LO is 21 months and hasn't been in a buggy since she was about 17 months and didn't even start walking until she was 16 months :rolleyes: she's as good as gold on the reins/strap :doh:

[Candlelight]

Lucy and Oliver should get together:lol:

[Libra]

Billy is the same! I havent got the patience though he 99% of the time, he gets put back in the pushchair kicking and screaming.

I look after my niece, 4, and nephew, 6 months, twice a week and if I need to go to the shop, Billy HAS to walk cause Kaiden uses the pushchair. A 10 minute walk there, 10 minute walk back, took me 2 hours the other day! 2 HOURS!!!

[august]

ah I feel your pain, Oscar is the same he will just run off. I tend to run down the road alongside him though. if I don't want him running off then I threaten him with going in the buggy.
She will get the idea in the end though :hug:

[DKNI]

So i spent 10 mins doing a 30 second walk :rolleyes: because she was looking around, looking behind her, scratching her arse, trying to touch people, walls etc etc all the way to the bank



Oh god this made me laugh out loud.

I used to have this with Dylan and then had to carry both of them at the same time. Now he gets a choice buggy or walk , if he wants to walk then he has to do it. Must say tho he is a hand holder so thats easier unless my mum is there and he has to play hide n seek in every shop.

No help to you at all but thanks for the laugh

[Cherrypie]

Because she's nearly 3 and she needs to learn to walk properly at some stage, or DO i just leave her in the buggy until she's so big she breaks it :huh: :huh:

If i don't allow her to walk, how is she ever going to learn?? Same with anything really, isn't it??

I'm already getting comments from "helpful" strangers "ooh you're too big for that pushchair aren't you" :doh: our friends little girl was 4 in March and STILL goes in the buggy a LOT and OMG it looks hiddeous, doesn't help she's the size of an 8 year old either but still, a child in school uniform, in a pushchair :loco:

Every time i do it i think "oh maybe she'll actually be good this time" but she's not?

I see your point, PF. If you're wanting her to learn to walk more, but she still insists on running off, I'd give her a choice of wrist strap or buggy - and no alternatives.
I feel your pain with 'helpful stranger' comments :kiss: . xx

[Franny]

I'm already getting comments from "helpful" strangers "ooh you're too big for that pushchair aren't you" :doh: our friends little girl was 4 in March and STILL goes in the buggy a LOT and OMG it looks hiddeous I haven't had comments from strangers but friends drop hints but I say 'if she walked by my side like your LO, I wouldn't be using it' but, tbh, it's far easier. I can zip around without worrying she is too tired.

Don't let other people force you to make her grow up too quickly or do things she is not ready for yet. She is your child and you are the one who has to run after her and, IMO, if she is still at the stage where she's running off then she is not really ready to be walking f/t. Even my HV said to put DD in the pushchair whenever she did that.

She's not that old, anyway, is she? She is not even 3 yet. I don't even think 4 is that old. I remember being in the pushchair at about 4 and now I am a very keen walker so it's nothing to do with laziness.

[Minky]

GAH PF how frustrating!

Have to say, you're much nicer than me, I'd be putting the wrist strap on and not negotiating at all! But then I'm mean :devil:

[Princess Fiona]

GAH PF how frustrating!

Have to say, you're much nicer than me, I'd be putting the wrist strap on and not negotiating at all! But then I'm mean :devil:

Yeah but then i have to drag her across the floor when she goes all floppy :rolleyes:

She's in the buggy from now on, i'm not even trying again until she's 16 :lol:

[Tgirl]

gawd just had similar experience...brought sophia out for a little walk with her dolly and pram because we have both been driven crazy stuck in all day.she was great for about five minutes...then wanted me to carry her...so i am left carrying her and the doll and pram ..luckily we didn't go far...she was screaming her head off i am sure the neighbours thought i was pinching her..my arm is killing me now though

[noddy]

I DOES feel like they're never going to get the hang of it, but they do. Henry suddenly realised he shouldn't run off when he was about three-and-a-half, coinciding with him going to pre-school. It was such a relief as I had to push Betty in the buggy and didn't want to have to control him too. Now he's used to walking to and from school everyday (holding onto the buggy the whole time) which is a short walk, he's loads better when we have to go longer distances.

It DOES get better, I PROMISE! :grin: :higgies:

Noddy

[vicky]

you need one of those retractable dog lead thingys so when she runs you push the button and zzzzzziiiiipppp she's right by your side again :lol:

you'll get there PF :smile:

[Princess Fiona]

PMSL Vicky, sounds like a plan!