TTC vibes to my OH please!

[Minerva]

My OH just can't decide if he wants to TTC or not. Last year he said if I wanted a baby we could go for it, so I had a think & said "yes please!". Well he couldn't have gone off the idea quick enough!

I've been off the pill since september, waiting for him to deal with his issues. I'm 34, I'm not getting any younger, & I want to live long enough to see my grandkids ffs! I've taken him to see new parents & babies, but he just clams up, maybe he feels like he's being set up?

Did any of you have to change your OH's minds? How did you do it? I don't want to be a nag, infact we hardly ever talk about it. But he definitely knows I still want to try. Being patient might do the trick, but I get so blue wanting to be a mummy :sigh:

[Mrs Bunny]

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: mate.
You will get there I promise. He will come round, you know how my DH was!
Not sure what to suggest really, apart from letting him come round in his time. Complete cliche I know. I found just bringing it up every now and then worked eventually. You could borrow Jacob for a day, although some days that will put him off further :lol:
They do take their time though and it can feel so :hair: :hair: :hair:
You can have a hug next time I see you, which should be soon. Will text you.
See you soon.
Mrs B

[SaintSarah]

I can 100% understand your feelings. My husband has been reluctant to TTC despite us planning this for months now - it has been a horrible time, I have been blaming him for stopping us having children and probably became obsessed by it far too much.

It was so hard to explain to him how desperatly I wanted to be a Mother, men dont have the same maternal instincts do they? He just couldnt understand my feelings and the more I talked about it the more it scared him

In the end, we had a really good chat about babies (sadly we dont know anyone with youngsters that we could 'borrow') I said that having a baby will be magical not scary and that he will be a fantastic Father....it must have sunk in as yesterday he said the words I have been waiting for....... 'Come on, lets try for a baby I want to be a Dad' :cheer2: :cheer2: :cheer2:

So, we are now officially trying for a baby. I really hope that your OH comes around, and he will in his own time......I have been walking on air for 24 hours, and I hope you soon are too :hugs:

[Minerva]

Thanks ladies, I'm feeling less blue this morning, but I'm still a bit :hair: about it all. Guess I'll have to play the waiting game with some gentle reminders!

SS well done on getting your OH to come round - get going, we want to see a bfp! Maybe on holiday!

Mrs B - I'll take that hug thanks. And I'm afraid I wouldn't know if Jacob isn't being adorable, even squawking sounds like music to my ears!

Watch this space.... :preggie:

[Fitmonkey]

Good luck with trying to persuade him Minerva.:hug:

Hope something happens soon. :fingerscrossed:

[spritzer]

I think a lot of men go through a period of cold feet about babies and retract their promises/suggestions and find it hard to cope with seeing friends with babies as they feel the net is closing in on them.

Men do get broody, but in their own time really - it is so frustrating!

Although Mr S knew I wanted babies I don't think he really understood properly until 2 weeks after we moved into our new house and 2 seperate friends came over and told us they were expecting (1 with number 3) and I was so kind and happy for them and sobbed my heart out the minute they left. He took one look at me and said 'finish this pack of pills and then we'll start':ellie: as I only had two left he was a bit shocked:lol: 2 months later I got my BFP.

[Amethyst]

Good luck sending lots of :babydust: :babydust: :babydust: your way.:smile: .

Amethyst x

[Minerva]

A friend of a friend who my OH thinks is "an alright bloke" (high praise indeed) now has a pregnant wife, so I'm all like "Invite them over! Go on, invite them round! Do it now, before you forget! INVITE THEM OVER!"

Subtle enough? :wink:

[Mrs Bunny]

A friend of a friend who my OH thinks is "an alright bloke" (high praise indeed) now has a pregnant wife, so I'm all like "Invite them over! Go on, invite them round! Do it now, before you forget! INVITE THEM OVER!"

Subtle enough? :wink:

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