He has just downed a bottle of whisky

[~Twiggy~]

He has drunk a whole ****ing bottle of Jack Danies tonight. The ****ing *******.
He opened the bottle at just before Nine. I am absolutely bloody furious.

He hasnt had a drink for two night and because bitch face has been nominated out the house he ordered a chinese and had it delivered by Taxi and was drunk when it arrived, I payed and now he has blottoed out on the sofa after one mouthful of food.
I have saved the bottle and going to crucify him in the morning.

I thought he was going to start improving as work is coming in thick and fast now and he has made an effort to lose weight for his motorsport.

What a complete ****.

After I had such a lovely day today this how it has finished. Totally spoilt.

[Diddlum]

Oh no, bloody hell that's crap.

Sorry, I don't know what to say, don't know any background to this but you sound like you need a big hug.:higgies:

[Jamtart]

aw hun :hug: dont know the history either but sounds really crappy!

[August Girl]

How big a bottle? 70cl?????

Big hugs to you Mads :hug: It's definitely something that needs sorting out

[Julesb]

Sending you a hug.x

[Sonriendo]

Oh you poor thing. :higgies: to you. I had one like this in my past and used to spoil special things for me. Just leave him there, I used to try covering mine with a blanket so he wouldn't come in to the bedroom later and disturb me if I managed to sleep. So sorry you had your lovely day spoiled.

[littlepinkpiglet]

Hasn't J got a drum or trumpet or really loud fire truck or something he can climb in bed and play for daddy at 7 am??? :bwahaha:

So sorry your day has been ruined like that :no: :flowers:

[~Twiggy~]

Yep a 70 cl.


History. 12 years together and one son born two and a half years ago. My parnter, Self employed Shopfitter, lovely man.
We bought our first house and had a mortgage, needed extensive work and WE gutted it out and nearly finished it. Still needs doing.
Used to do Dope before which he has always done recreationally, then I found out he had a Cocaine problem, when he worked stupid hours and I do mean stupid hours as the stress of meeting deadlines. I found out, went ballistic and he did clean up eventually. We got stronger and the business did well. Several years later I fell pregnant, not planned at all and still don't think I'm mother material two and half years on.
He stopped smoking soon as we found out we were going to be parents. Everything more or less great since, bit of depression from me in and out over the Twelve years.
Two years ago we bought a second home and have move in and lived with MIL for 12 months. She has just moved out into our other home, and is looked after finacially. He totally respects her and family means everything to him funnily. So this year all going well, work a bit slack and he cannot relax and I notice he has started drinking JDs as way to relax.
He has also taken up motorsport and is doing well.
But he has been drinking more and more and easily goes through three bottles of JD a week. Now over the last week he has slowed down his consumption and is losing weight. He cycles and rows most nights.
So tonight was a big no no.
What the hell do I do? I love him, he is great company and is very intelligent and also he is very calming with me and can see the big picture in most cases and my family love him too. He is very practical and reads between the lines and thoughful. So why is he doing this?

Sorry for the life story. :oops:

[August Girl]

Does your DH think he has a problem with drink? 3 bottles a week is a phenomenal amount and his health will suffer if he carries on :-(

Must be a very difficult situation for you to be in

[Jamtart]

Do you think its a one off or not? I have no advice as have never been in that situation but I hope it all gets sorted out :hug:

[Sonriendo]

Hellsbells, this is a bit of a one off surprise for you then? I think a long chat in the morning is required. Do you think he is worried about anything? I would leave him to sleep it off for the mo, and see if you can't have a nice calm chat about it all tomorrow. So sad to have undone all your lovely relaxing spa day.

[littlepinkpiglet]

I found out, went ballistic and he did clean up eventually.

But he hasn't has he? He's just swapped the cocaine for the JD. I doubt he realises that he's done it either. 3 bottles is a LOT.

Will he talk about it or does he get defensive?

[Fantasseee]

It does sound like he is using all these things as a crutch. is he worried abut yr finances or something else do you think? Perhaps drinking is his way of relaxation, whereas before it was coke and before that weed :scratchchin:

[~Twiggy~]

Yep to all the above.
I'm letting him sleep on the sofa until he can bring himself to bed.
I'm having a seriuos chat with him tomorrow and laying my cards on the table.
He needs to know what he is doing exaclty and it's detrimental effect on him, me and our family.

i'll let you know what happens.

Thanks everyone for the support. It was needed.

[Cherrypie]

Hope you can get things sorted, MAAAT. A bottle of JD is a huge amount to down in one night, but tbh, it's more worrying that he's drinking 3 bottles a week -i.e. it being an ongoing thing.

Hugs to you. x

[Sonriendo]

Have been thinking about you today. Hope the hangover was a whopper. Pick your chat time carefully and good luck to you.

[~Twiggy~]

He got up this am and was all around me saying "Alright dear?!"

I just said calmly that we need to discuss last night. He said "Why?" Knowing full well. I said, "Look at the bottle over there" and he said "Did I really drink all that much?" And I replied, "Yeah you drank that much."

He admitted that he hasn't drunk all week, with which I agreed.
He also admitted he was looking foward to the eviction night and was planning on having a drink. He also admitted that he know he drinks too much.
So after a few more words from me he knows I'm on the case.
It's up to him now to follow through and get a grip of himself and his addictions.

[Sonriendo]

Good news that he has admitted that he has a problem. Hope you manage to work through it yourselves. If not AlAnon are very supportive. Good luck Mrs Twig :choc: & :flowers: for you.

[Julesb]

I'll second what Sonriendo said about AlAnon, they give great advice and support.

[Crazyfool]

Sorry no advice for you M. I have never been in or been close to anyone who has been in this situ. It sounds like he finally knows he has a problem so that is a huge step. I really hope you guys work thro it ok .:smile:

[~Twiggy~]

Just to say a big thank you again for the fantastic support and helpful advice.

:choc: :kiss: :hugs: