Would ....

[Princess Lollipop]

you call a little girl a name that is very similar to DH's ex-wife's name? Obviously this is all hypothetical until we find out baby's sex.

I love a particular girl's name beginning with an 'A.' Incidentally my father-in-law's mother was also called this so huge brownie points for me! However DH ex-wife is called a variation and slightly longer version of this name. I am not putting the names here in case anyone knows me IRL but PM if you want to know! The ex still has the same surname as us too.

Would you use it regardless? Hubby thinks that we should. He has to have contact with his ex as they have a daughter but in 6 years time this contact will cease.

Would appreciate other people's thoughts?

[bisy backson]

if it doesn't bother you and you like the name then why not?

for me the biggest thing would be the similarity to the ex's name, but if that's not an issue then go for it

bbxx

[Madwife]

Again if it doesnt bother you then go for it. As soon as baby is called the name, then you will automatically associate it with the baby and not the ex i reckon anyway. :smile:

[*kate*]

Would the ex (mistakenly) think it was a "tribute" to her from your DH??

If it doesn't bother you or him then go for it, s'pose it depends how close the two names are really and if the name you've chosen can be used as a given name without being associated with the ex's name IYSWIM ie I'd always assume Em was a derivative of Emily/Emma but Kate doesn't necessarily come from Katherine.

I've waffled :oops: pm me the names and I'll tell you :smile:

[spritzer]

TBH no, I wouldn't. I think it is risky having very similar names, especially with someone who is your OH's ex!

[katkinn]

Definitely agree with what kate says that it v much depends on the name.

I would also say that it depends on how popular a name it is.

If it's pretty popular and one that a number of people have, then I wouldn't say it really mattered BUT if it was really unusual and rare then I probably would be more wary.

More than anything as I wouldn't want her to think we'd done anything to have any ties to her etc etc.

PM me if you like and I'll let you know if I know of many people with that name (plus the fact that I'm really nosy!!)

Promise I won't nick it as I can't!!!!!!

I would also say it may depend on how good a relationship you have with her. Good relationship = may be more inclined to go with it. Bad relationship = far less inclined.

Also, as much as you may cease having contact with her in 6 years, you will obviously still have contact with her daughter - and so the connection with the mother will be there for pretty much ever, iyswim.

However at the end of the day, it really boils down to whether you and DH like the name enough and can deal with it!!!

A baby certainly does grow into a name and it very much becomes THEM rather than a reminder of someone else though, imho.

SOrry for the ramblings!!

katkinn
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[Soreya]

I think that you should go for it if you really like the name cos as soon as your sweet baby will be born it will her name with her own personnality to it..:smile:

[Princess Lollipop]

Thanks girls :ellie: :ellie: That's what I love about this forum, you can be completely honest but in a really nice way.

Kate & Kat I have PM'd you!

Relations with the ex are currently at an all time low and TBH they have never been particularly good.

I suppose its all hypothetical until we find out baby's sex but you know who we like to obsess about names :lol: :cheer2: :cheer2: