Feel Down - again feel free to ignore

[seashell]

just a rant. I feel very down at the moment. DH is having real problems with his job - I was going to post about it on here for advice but its just too hard to explain - basically he has a bully for a boss who swears at him all day and speaks to him like "S***". DH is not the same person at the moment as he is under a lot of stress...he is thinking he needs to quit his job any day. He has seen a solicitor who seems to think he just needs to get out, ie going down the tribunal route wont work.

The other thing is I just feel fed up - I think its because I havent been out all week really and being the holidays the toddler groups etc are closed and I cant stand it... I was also up at 3am with Thomas screaming last night - typically when DH is away (It always happens when he is away)

Sorry to rant - it seems lots of us are down today

[RealGoneKid]

:hug: no advice seashell but I wish I was nearer - we could go for a coffee, let the LOs play and have a chat :hug:

[seashell]

Oh RGK- thanks for that, theres me going on when you have your own worries too....:higgies:

[Frogslie]

Seashell :hug: it's hard isn't it?

My OH was stuck in a job he hated, with a boss who threatened to sack him all the time, even though he did a good job, he was miserable for 3 years and it got worse and worse, and his confidence was so low. He took it out on me, blamed me for making it impossible for him to leave and retrain to do something different because I 'made' him buy a house and didn't work (I was a SAHM)... blamed everyone... was badtempered, stressed and not a good dad either.

Eventually things came to a head and he was threatened with dismissal for 'incompetence' (someone elses, they wanted to sack him and blame him for it to save face with a client, but pay him 'on the side' to finish the project:shock: cos nobody else could do it!!!). He'd been jobhunting and the next week landed a contract paying much better and although he had to work away from home for a year while we thought about moving to be nearer the work (and we have) he was so so much happier and when he was at home things were so much better!

All you can do is support your DH and encourage him to find another job and boost him up as much as possible (and it's hard when they are so grouchy!). Next week all the toddler groups'll be open again and you can get out - can you take Thomas to the park today for some fresh air or something? I always find someone to chat to that way!!!

:hug: :hug: :hug: again and I hope you get some sleep tonight and that things get sorted out soon for you and DH xxx

[Cherrylips]

Hugs hon, :hug:

Must be something in the air, my hubby is pretty stressed with work too, though for differene reasons.

Hope things look up soon x

[Cheaky*Monkey]

:higgies::higgies:

[funkystars123]

sorry nothing constructive to add other than it is horrid when you hate your job and I would advise him to get out as ap

but these are for you anyway:higgies: :higgies: :flowers:

xx

[seashell]

Oh Frogslie, thanks so much for your positive reply...luckily DH doesnt take it out on me but he is so down at the moment.. he has been trying to set up on his own as well as looking for another job but neither have been working at the moment.. anyway it reminds me that there are others in the same boat and work for awful companies all the time, its just awful that these people can treat their staff like this isnt it? I know I couldnt cope with what my DH has to deal with his boss said to him the other day when DH asked him to not swear (f'ing and blinding) "Grow up you are being immature, I'll F***ing swear at you if I like". Anyway, I'll keep supporting him and trying to keep positive for him and I'm sure if we try hard enough another position will come up soon.

On the group front, I'm sure I will feel better next week - I will go to a park today too or walk down by the river, which is quite near.


ETA - Thanks everyone else for your replies..

[argente]

:higgies: you should definitely go out and get some fresh air, some sunshine will help.

[SnaffleFox]

Lots of :higgies: coming your way hon xx

[Biba]

:higgies: Hun

[Devil Girl]

Oh no :higgies: that is not nice :-(

I hope your DH manages to get something sorted out :fingerscrossed:

Take care :higgies:

[Frogslie]

[quote=seashell]he has been trying to set up on his own as well as looking for another job but neither have been working at the moment.. quote]

That's what my OH did... we thought nothing would ever sort itself out but it did - it'll come good in the end, honest, just hold on in there:smile:

[argente]

Seashell's at work all day today and doesn't have internet access - she texted me this morning to say Thomas woke at 3am again this morn screaming so she's had hardly any sleep and feels terrible! :-(

It's definitely one of those times where everything seems to be going wrong for them but I am sure things will start to look up - they always do eventually.

At least the weekend is coming up :thumb: