Venting.........

[Seagull&Snoopy]

Just a quick vent.

My family have always been about academic qualifications and there was little affection, love or warmth. Consequently I ended up feeling "not good enough" and nothing I have ever done is good for them.

When I found out I was pregnant they said "We support you" but nothing else was done. i.e. no phone calls etc...

Anyway last week I texted them when I started bleeding and went into hospital.
A few hours later I got a message back saying "got your message, if you want to put us down as next of kin you can"........ I was like :no:

Then xmas eve got a message saying "well have you miscarried or not?"

I replied and said "No, threatened miscarriage out of hospital"

Since then nothing, not a bean not a peanut never mind a text saying happy xmas.

I have a baby on the way, been through a lot and they are wealthy,retired and can't even bother to text.

I feel so :angry:

[Adelelee]

Oh hun, your family sound lovely, not!!

So sorry to hear they are being so unsupportive, not what you need right now :hug::hug::hug:

[Tekkencat]

Blimey what was that phrase about being able to choose friends but not your family - Good greif -

I know we dont replace family but we're here and are dependable (iyswim)

[Jamtart]

Oh hunny :higgies: How thoughtless of them! I hope you had a good xmas at your friends despite this.

Remember your extended family (damsels) will always be here to support you :hug:

[Seagull&Snoopy]

I know thanks ladies.:hug:
I know it is not personal as they are like it to my brother and sister too.

Nothing is good enough for them.

I just feel -why should I fecking text them!
So I won't, but it makes me mad!!

[MamaJ]

Some parents are just very cold and can't seem to connect with their children. When Snoopy is born you'll realise that they don't matter so much, he or she is your future. If they aren't interested don't tell them. They'll soon get in touch when they need you.

[bernardeena]

Flipping heck, how cold! Really feel for you, but try not to concern yourself with them for now, just focus on you and snoopy.

And remember that whatever they make you feel like you are good enough and can be a great mum.

[Seagull&Snoopy]

I know I feel :cry: it is my mum's birtday in 2 days and just debating whether to send a card or not, or an e-mail or a text.

I feel so angry, they have not bothered to phone once in the last week and find out how I am.

Any ideas?

[Jamtart]

aw L:hug:

I would send a card and leave it as that, se if she gets in touch to thank you. If she doesnt then leave her be till she does contact you.

:higgies: just concentrate on you and snoopy!

[bernardeena]

I agree with Jamtart, I would just put a card in the post and leave it at that, if they want to get in touch there is nothing stopping them

[Madwife]

awww hun thats horrible for you :higgies:

[racqy-rooster]

Thats is awful :hug:

We are here for you :higgies:

[Seagull&Snoopy]

Have a card,

Addressed

Mum,

Should I put

Seagull
x
or seagull or love seagull

TBH don't feel much love at the moment

[Vickytoria]

Seagull and Snoopy x (then the x can be from snoopy, who doesnt know any better)

[She-Ra]

Gosh I cant believe them. That has actually really upset me hun.

Do they have any grandchildren?? Maybe this will soften them a little.

xx

[Seagull&Snoopy]

My brother has a 6month old girl -they have seen her 3 times all when he bought he down from sheff to their house.
They are not interested in her!