Elle Driver
03-05-2006, 02:34pm
my friend and her 2 year old little boy has just left and the place looks like an absolute pig sty :shock:
I mean i know toddlers are a mile a minute, want this toy out, that toy out so..okay, thats acceptable.
but FFS :no: his behaviour was appalling. he started screaming at me, just put his face in my face and screamed at the top of his voice, piercing screams, down my ear hole. i said to him sternly no, do NOT scream at me to which he then notched it up a few decibels and carried on screaming for the next hour :faint: I kept saying to his mum, put him on the naughty mat, which she then was doing, albeit halfheartedly, and every time he got off (which was every time she put him on) he would then come up and bash his mum :huh: She would then say 'what did you do that for?' but not return him straight away!!! Madness!!!
the second time he screamed down my ear i said to my friend can i put him on the mat this time, she was like 'do whatever you want, he obviously doesnt listen to me' to which i then felt sad about for her. so anyway i put him on the naughty mat and he scratched and hit me and bit me and i not have an angry bloody scratch down my arm!!!
Ruby (and Leila) were getting more and more upset and then Ruby started screaming back in his face, and pushing him about, saying 'stop scaring my baby sister' :lurve: Anyway, it all just went pear shaped so in the end i suggested they leave as it wasn't getting any better and now i am sitting around surveying the damage and am a bit :shock: at it all.
my friend says ruby is so well behaved compared to her LO but i think thats because i am such a disciplinarian! (sp?) when i say she sits on the naughty mat she does, even if it means i have to return her there 50 times lol. not that ihave to do or have had to but its all about consistency isn't it? i did suggest she time out in her arms, holding him, if she cant keep up the naughty mat. this was met with vagueness :sigh:
I said you need to sort it out (his behaviour, as this isn't a one off at ALL) as when he starts nursery or goes to playgroup he'll be the one that's terrorising the other kids !!
no real reason for the post, just couldn't quite believe the debacle of an afternoon's 'playing' that we've just had, and my arm is sooo sore :-( My friend rues her son's naughtiness/aggression yet how can he be taught right from wrong when his mum's not willing to see it through when she's disciplining him?
Or am i just too gun-ho as i am PERFECTLY happy/willing to discipline ruby - and leila when the time comes - and it doesn't faze me one bit, the whole naughty corner/time out/naughty step???? Dont get me wrong, i let her be loud, be messy - to a point ;-), but she knows her boundaries!
Do you find it hard to discipline your LO? What techniques do you use?
PVx
I mean i know toddlers are a mile a minute, want this toy out, that toy out so..okay, thats acceptable.
but FFS :no: his behaviour was appalling. he started screaming at me, just put his face in my face and screamed at the top of his voice, piercing screams, down my ear hole. i said to him sternly no, do NOT scream at me to which he then notched it up a few decibels and carried on screaming for the next hour :faint: I kept saying to his mum, put him on the naughty mat, which she then was doing, albeit halfheartedly, and every time he got off (which was every time she put him on) he would then come up and bash his mum :huh: She would then say 'what did you do that for?' but not return him straight away!!! Madness!!!
the second time he screamed down my ear i said to my friend can i put him on the mat this time, she was like 'do whatever you want, he obviously doesnt listen to me' to which i then felt sad about for her. so anyway i put him on the naughty mat and he scratched and hit me and bit me and i not have an angry bloody scratch down my arm!!!
Ruby (and Leila) were getting more and more upset and then Ruby started screaming back in his face, and pushing him about, saying 'stop scaring my baby sister' :lurve: Anyway, it all just went pear shaped so in the end i suggested they leave as it wasn't getting any better and now i am sitting around surveying the damage and am a bit :shock: at it all.
my friend says ruby is so well behaved compared to her LO but i think thats because i am such a disciplinarian! (sp?) when i say she sits on the naughty mat she does, even if it means i have to return her there 50 times lol. not that ihave to do or have had to but its all about consistency isn't it? i did suggest she time out in her arms, holding him, if she cant keep up the naughty mat. this was met with vagueness :sigh:
I said you need to sort it out (his behaviour, as this isn't a one off at ALL) as when he starts nursery or goes to playgroup he'll be the one that's terrorising the other kids !!
no real reason for the post, just couldn't quite believe the debacle of an afternoon's 'playing' that we've just had, and my arm is sooo sore :-( My friend rues her son's naughtiness/aggression yet how can he be taught right from wrong when his mum's not willing to see it through when she's disciplining him?
Or am i just too gun-ho as i am PERFECTLY happy/willing to discipline ruby - and leila when the time comes - and it doesn't faze me one bit, the whole naughty corner/time out/naughty step???? Dont get me wrong, i let her be loud, be messy - to a point ;-), but she knows her boundaries!
Do you find it hard to discipline your LO? What techniques do you use?
PVx