worrying

[seashell]

hi, lately i have been worrying all the time about Thomas - i keep getting very anxious about measles and menighitis - ( i have recently just resumed the combined pill again which maybe making me so hormonal - i have felt down a bit too for the first time since the birth)

Do your babies ever get "Pressure spots" on them from where you have touched or held them - tonight when i was top and tailing Thomas, i saw about 4 spots on him and i felt sick with worry - but i think they may be fading, although they havent yet...

sorry for this post,my husband is away as per usual - so i feel so on my own with all the worry and concerns for Thomas.

[*Fallen Angel*]

Hi seashell

Worrying is prefectly normal. I used to be terrible and obsess over every little thing. Whether her dummy was clean enough etc.....

As for the pressure spots, they will fade. Have you ever rubbed your arm, not thinking about it, then looked and seen the red mark? Remember, babies' skin is thinner and more delicate than adults, but that doesn't mean you've hurt him. I'm sure he'd let you know if you had!

Things like meningitis, measles etc are scary, especially as they are publicised a fair amount, and usually when there's a story to tell. Try and view it as education. Tell yourself there's no reason to think your little one will contract anything like this.

It must be hard with your DH away so much. Is there anyone who can help? Even if it's only a chat and a coffee. How about your HV? Having someone to listen usually does wonders for helping put your mind at ease.

Also, it may have something to do with the pill so it might be worth having a chat with your GP.

I hope you feel a bit better.

xxx

[seashell]

Thanks A_A - i feel silly now posting the above - but i definatly think the pill may be making me more anxious.

Oh the pressure spots i was worried that they were the start of measles etc - its terrible how you can get yourself in a panic etc.

[*Fallen Angel*]

Don't feel silly at all. We've all been there. You wouldn't believe the things I think she's contracted at times.....

[seashell]

thanks again - its funny how you forget that all of us mums worry like this from time to time

XXX

[*kate*]

Hi Seashell

Can completely see where you are coming from on this one - since J has been born I am fairly anxious about things concerning the kids that may never happen, like (here's the mad bit) someone breaking into school and hurting them, being knocked over by a car, and other things along those lines - usually pretty awful. I then imagine the scenario and worry myself silly.

I'm thinking it's hormones and it'll settle down eventually. I think that these worries may be my imagination "trying out" scenarios to test my reaction to them. I read something yesterday that said that to brush these worries away just lead you to think about them more, so it's best to think about them, logically pull them apart and then let them go.

My DH works away a bit too, and it's worse when you're on your own as you tend to mentally make the worries bigger if there's no-one there to rationalise it for you. Little things tend to snowball don't they?

Don't feel silly - there's other people here for you and in the same boat :)

[seashell]

Thanks Kate - i sometimes think im better if i dont think about the worries too much as i mull them over and over and make them worse lol -

you're right though re being on your own and making the worries bigger - when my DH isnt away from home he gets in about 9 sometimes 11 so i've been with Thomas all day and done everything for him without DH being able to give me a break - he sayes that all his late hours etc will ease off in the next few weeks so hopefully things will get better.

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