Why can't she do as she's damned well told?

[Abbie]

What's got into my daughter at the moment? She's being so naughty, rude and disobedient.

Everytime I ask her to do something I get NO screamed in my face, she throws herself about, storms off to her room, slams doors, etc.

She won't do as she's asked, won't stop doing something she's been asked to stop doing, and is generally being horrible.

The "Get Dressed" battle started at 8:30 this morning and it's still raging now.

Where has my little girl gone? I want her back. I can't cope with this much longer

[Helsbells]

How old is she?
Have you tried rewards for doing things she is asked - sticker chart then 'something' for a certain amount of stickers. It doesn't even have to be something you have to buy; maybe choosing a tv programme, choosing a meal or going to the park. If you both decide beforehand what it is she is working towards it will give her more inclination to work towards it.

I know it's hard but try to focus on the positive (congratulate her when she does the right thing) and try to ignore her when she says 'no'.

I know this is all very 'supernanny'ish advice but it does work - I'm a teacher and this is how we try to control behaviour and it does have surprisingly good results.

Good luck and just try to stay calm :)

[Abbie]

How old is she?

She's 4 1/2 but she's behaving like a teenager at the moment with all the door slamming.

We do have a reward chart. It's sort of 6 rainbows leading up to a princess castle. If she's good her princess moves up a rainbow, if she's naughty it moves down. When she gets to the top she gets a little lucky dip prize

I really try not to be on her case all the time, generally she's OK and well behaved, but as soon as you ask her to do something she doesn't want to do, bang, it's like a switch has been flicked and off she goes. It's just little things like getting dressed, putting her shoes on to go out, no she can't have chocolate 5 mins before tea, etc.

We used to have a time out chair but that was treated like a joke so we moved it to time out in her bedroom but she destroys the place. This morning's little carry on resulted in her throwing all her books out of her bookcase, throwing the contents of her knicker drawer around the room and throwing all the toys about from under her bed

[August Girl]

I can totaly sympathise! Z is still having huge temper tantrums. I only have to start to tell him off and he immediately loses the plot, so after that not a single word sinks in. :happyno: If he loses the plot completely by screaming etc I walk away as no amount of shouting/talking gets through. When he's calm I try again.

Over the Easter hols he was refusing to get dressed till it was almost bedtime again. I think a lot of it is testing the boundaries. I can almost see him thinking 'What will happen if I do 'X'?' I just try and be consistent even when I'm so sick of sending him to his room for the 50th time.

I have found that he does like to feel important so I give him small jobs to do, even if it's just trusting him to take a dirty cup to the kitchen (he used to chuck them into the sink and break them!) or feed Del a yoghurt.

It really is so wearing though isn't it?:hissyfit:

[Abbie]

It really is so wearing though isn't it?:hissyfit:


Isn't it just. I never know what's going to set her off from one minute to the next.

[She Devil]

Bethany has had a right attitude the past few months talking to me like im a piece of dirt and ordering me around. i think its finally stopping now fingers crossed