View Full Version : Im NOT a feckin weirdo!
* Weirdo Alert* OMG Im still bfing! Yuck, I must be a pevert! My child is going to have problems! How can I bear it! Its disgusting! He has TEETH!!
Well I think Ive had just about had enough with peoples attitudes. I mean WTF!! Who cares if my baby is one? He loves it! Its good for him! Its not hurting anyone else, so wtf is the problem? :hissyfit:
Im sick of people asking me
' Oooh, so your STILL feeding?'*cue weird look*
'Is that not a bit strange?'
'Is he not a bit old for it?'
Ok deep breathe, sorry rant over!
Over the last fewdays I seem to have got quite alot of these comments and its really pissed me off. Some people are really supportive, others think im a bit of a freak. I dont care, toby loves it and thats all that matters.
Has anyone else who fed for a long time encountered this attitude?
Seriously it's up to you what you do and feels comfy with.
At the end of the day tis none of anyones beeswax is it?
oh hunny :hug:
I have no idea how it feels as I couldn't bf, but I would say if you are happy and your DS is happy then carry on! Ignore everyone else... as hard as I know that is too do!
I don't think a year old is too old to be breastfed, 8 years old like that women in the C4 doc seems a little odd to me but if its right for them then hey ho. I think its brilliant that you still do it its so nice a time for just you and your LO for a nice cuddle.
Sorry you're feeling like this
It's no ones business really what you do, and tbh I think we often can't win. If we don't/can't/won't bf we get slated and if we don't want to/need to/can't stop we're slated :rolleyes:
And the "oh you're still feeding him" question - god that irritates me so much, I mean even if you were giving him formula that would be "feeding" him wouldn't it???!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyway, it's your baby, your boobies, your decision and as long as you and Toby enjoy it then keep doing it.
Conflict of interest - mum of one unable to breast feed :( but hoping to succeed this time round :D
Well, I fed Lulah til she was 15 months, and I have to say that I didn't really get any grief. Though I guess people must have realised ;) that if they'd said it to me I would have given them both barrells about it.
What is it about this country? That you are weird to feed your child breast milk? :mad:
You're doing a great job honey, and feck anyone who implies otherwise.
I certainly don't think that is weird at all???? Good on you is what I say. I would find still feeding an 8 yr old a bit different like someone else said
Honestly, you can't win these days, you get flamed for bottle feeding, branded a hippy weirdo for bf-ing, it pees me off something rotten.
Lu was bf up til she was almost 6 months and i got comments like "oh your still bf" etc etc then when i stopped i got comments (albeit usually said behind my back by ppl thinking i couldnt here) that were basically along the lines of "young mothers these days, they just shove a bottle in and hope for the best"
I think this is a lot more common than people realise. It's just that as you tend to drop the feeds in the middle of the day as you add solids, a lot of people are mostly doing morning and evening feeds by the age of one so you don't see it out of the house so much. That's why people feel it's unusual and are curious.
Also, there's a bit of puzzlement about when you should stop. I personally wouldn't be comfortable breastfeeding an 8-year-old - if only because I'd be setting them up to be tormented by their peer group. So I've heard a few people say "if they're old enough to ask for it, they're too old" which has the benefit of being quite witty and drawing a nice neat line - but I'm not sure it's particularly logical.
I'm jealous actually that you are still doing it.
I had to give up last week at 8 months because of antibiotics and I'm heartbroken. It was just so much easier than fannying around with bottles. Plus T is ill AGAIN and it was perfect for comforting him.
So well done you.
Well you can't win :( while feeding Josie the other day I got chatting to an old woman who asked "didn't you think of feeding her yourself?"
Yep I did actually, fed her really well for 10 days until SCBU advised against it as she couldn't tolerate it so mind your own business!
Makes me :mad: if you're happy and bubs is happy then people should butt out!
That's awful. You're not wierd at all. Nobody would question you if you were giving a bottle at the same age, so why the breast? Take no notice.
I BF Elena up until she was 18 month old. TBH I didn't take any notice of people when I bf, so I can't remember encountering any specific attitude problems (other than my HV at 7 months so I stopped going to see her). Friends/family knew from the start that however I chose to bring up Elena was my choice and there's no point interfering. Strangers are just that - strangers! They really don't matter.
At about 1 year I dropped her lunchtime feed and was only giving her a morning & evening feed.
It's not odd or wierd or gross. It's natural and in the best interest of your child. Don't let them get you down. If he's anything like Elena he won't drink milk any other way.
It's so easy for people to pass judgement when they know nothing about you.
grrrrrrrrrrr some people !!!!!!!!!! If your bambino is happy and you are happy then stuff um all - you are doing a good job ......
You're damned if you do and damned if you don't.
I agree with everyone else - you are doing great and it is no one elses beeswax.
donna-j, forgive me if I am asking a stupid question, but is there no way you could 'pump and dump' to keep up your supply and then continue to feed him when off the antibiotics?
hun, Laura turned one the other day and I am still feeding her, and in no hurry at all to stop. I don't think it's at all weird, although I am aware that by now, as Laura is bigger, some people must have opinions about it. Or they would, if they were more aware of me feeding her. But as it is, her 3 feeds are timed to her two naps, and bedtime (or on the three days she is at nursery, I give her one in the morning in the kitchen before leaving, and one early evening when we get home, then one at bedtime). What I mean is, I rarely feed publically any more, although I do if, say, I'm in town and having coffee and want her to go to sleep in her buggy in time for her morning nap. I'm just willing someone to say something! If they do I will point out that guidelines now say that you should feed til at least 2 years old, for the benefits from bonding, immunity etc. I guess Laura will phase them out gradually, certainly she's moving towards one nap now, so I may take that as an opportunity to drop a feed.
My only worry is that she always has a feed before sleeping (although not at nursery...) so wonder what I will replace it with when she stops BFing. Although I am still feeding her and in no hurry to stop, not sure I want it to continue beyond 2 - just my personal preference, although my mind may change on that one I guess.
I fed our 1st until she was 18 months and I think any negative comments just washed over me!
A couple of friends sometimes said things like "You're not STILL feeding her are you?" but they seemed to have a problem with breastfeeding full stop so it didn't bother me, sometimes I would just say things to wind them up. Another friend in the same group of friends also fed to a year.
My only worry is that she always has a feed before sleeping (although not at nursery...) so wonder what I will replace it with when she stops BFing.
I was concerned about this, but when Elena turned 18 months we went cold turkey (we did it when I was out for the night anyway) & she didn't even seem to notice. I'd been bf her to sleep for 18 months & all of a sudden she went to sleep without even noticing it was gone. Cuddling her or laying her in he cot & singing to her worked just as well to start with. Soon after that she'd lay down in her cot & go to sleep (so long as someone was in the room with her) without a problem.
Mad Madam Mim
I don't thik it's weird at all - in fact I'm jealous as I couldn't do it properly. 1 year old seems perfectly reasonable to be BF. If I had been able to I'm pretty sure I'd still be doing it at 1. I don't know why people can't mind their own bloody business about how mother's feed their children. Why get so worked up about what someone else is doing. It's ridiculous.
erm, sorry touchy subject
You carry on - you're doing a great job and s*d those people who poke their noses in.
Bluecow, I was away from home for the first few days without my breastpump. I've never had a huge supply anyway, and when I did try to express after a few days there was nothing.
T is really happy with his bottles, but it is a pain and I miss it. I am really hoping it means I lose the last stone now though (bad, selfish mummy moment).
It's not selfish donna-j. Thats one of the reasons I am dreading giving up - I will no longer have an excuse to aviod dieting!
Superkat, hunny don't let other peoples misconceptions/prejudices/views make you feel wierd just because you are doing the best for your son.
i breastfed my eldest til she was 15 months and although it was my personal preference so stop then there no way i would judge another mum if they were still b/feeding their 18 month plus old as its got absolutely nothing to do with any other b***er except the mum and her child!
I just stopped breastfeeding my youngest in Feb when she was 15 months again because thats how old G was and i just felt ready and that for us it was time to stop.
Can i ask how you oh feels about you still feeding your ds is he supportive?
My dh was very supportive all the way through me b/fing my 2 girls and i think as long as you have the support of the important people in your life everyone else can just go and bog off!
Thanks everyone, was just in a bad mood yesterday and I bumped into a girl from my old work and the subject came up and the look of horror on her face at the thought of me still doing it really angered me.
Normally I just laugh it off, say hes a typical man, loves his boobs!
I dont feed in public any more as hes so nosy and likes to take a break, look around and I ending up with my boob everywhere. He also likes to play with the other boob :teehee:, so i just do it at home/in friends houses etc.
A few of my friends (mostly without kids) have made comments recently, we were on a night out and I was slightly tiddly so basically told them to feck orf in a not so polite way.
My oh is supportive, he went through a phase when toby was about 6 months saying he wants me to stop, but i said no. Now he sees how much Toby loves and doesnt want me to stop until im ready.
This is definitley my favourite smiley :boobies:
Thanks again for listening to my rant! :D
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